Child support is a major part of divorce and custody agreements. The purpose of child support is to help provide the same life-style your child experienced before the divorce. Sometime, a reminder is needed……as indicated by this father.
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Look You’re not spending money to essentially pay for visitation.
You’re paying money to help the mother raise the life you helped to create.
That’s why it’s called child support.
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The Fathers’ Rights Movement
#117, Reminder re: Child Support
One of the most difficult aspects of PA is reconciling the negative impact on your child! Who has said what about you? Does your child believe everything they hear? Will your child EVER know how much you truly love them? Want to see them? Want to spend time with them? Will they every realize how much you fought to see them? Will they know you sacrificed everything for an opportunity to be a parent to them? All to no avail!
This parent articulates the frightening power PA.
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SPAN Stop Parental Alienation Now,
#116, The Toll of PA
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The effects of PAS are felt every single second! Of every single hour! Of every single day! There is no escape from the emotional turmoil! The wretched toll on the soul permeates every aspect of the parents life.
This father perfectly expresses the profound impact of PAS on the alienated parent.
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I don’t dream peacefully during this turmoil time.
I don’t smile gracefully, suit these tensed moments.
I feel no warmth when the sunlight touches my brow.
I want peace, because I’ve had a lifetime of war.
I want cuddles and kisses, tantrums and tears.
I want to pack lunch boxes and to do school runs.
When you know what’s best for your child and your being stopped, due to ones gain.
I know you look on this page often.
You are not welcome!
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Fathers That Care, March 28, 2015
#115, The Pain of PAS
A child follows in the footsteps of their parents!
Perfect advice from a loving father to his son!
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I want to prepare my child to go a step further than me. The bench mark I set is realistic, with simple demands.
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Father’s that Care, April 30, 2015
#114, Every Father
This mother shares the reality of divorce in that the child has TWO parents. She outlines the devastation of alienation on the the child’s development and offers advice for parents going through a divorce!
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Children deserve the love and support of both parents.What I find quite funny as a parent (mother) who works with her ex to make sure that her child is loved, supported and so that my child never knows the feeling of not having both of us around, is this……..
Most alienators I know, go for the throat. They want pay back, control, they want to bleed the other parent financially dry. They don’t want the other parent to have a voice, to have any time with their child/children and they make it their goal to belittle, bad-mouth and tear down the character of the alienated parent.
So let me ask this, if I was bitter at my ex, if I wanted to prove a point, if I wanted to raise our child by myself and not let my ex have any relationship at all with ‘our’ child, why on earth would I try so hard to keep the ex in my life? Why on earth would I want his money? Why on earth would I constantly go him for financial help or go after property, material things and the constant battle of court?
Doesn’t make sense.
If an alienator was really smart, firstly they wouldn’t do what they do on a daily basis that constantly hurts many, and they certainly wouldn’t cry poor or accept any help from an ex they hate or feel is unfit right? The constant belittling, the constant using their children as weapons, unhealthy right? The one thing constant in their lives is their hate of themselves and their continued support in hating the ex (the alienated) How on earth does this make sense?
Alienators are WEAK – Period.
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#113, Who Wins in Alienation?
Parenting legacy! This parent states the qualities she wants her children to remember about her!
I say this all the time. If you ask me what legacy I want to leave for my daughters, it’s not money…I want my daughters to be able to say, “My mom was always transparent, honest, God fearing and full of integrity!
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Shared by Tami Roman from Faun Witten
#111, Legacy
An adult child of divorce shares the heartache of their parents’ tumultuous divorce. Sadly, the devastating impact of the UNTRUTHS and the LIES may never truly be realized in ones’ life.
Complicating the matter is the underlying premise that we never know what the back story is for an individual.
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Sometimes the biggest lie is the one most often believed . .
..but I guess, if one can reconcile the pain and distinguish the lies from the truth, and not feel the shame or anger that goes along with the process, even the biggest untruths will slip away like grains of sand in the ocean . . .
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#110, Emotional Scars
An important message to parents! Keep the children out of our mess. Let the innocent stay clear of evil!
Divorce is between the parents-and ABOUT THE CHILD!
LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!
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Fathers That Care. May 3, 2015
#109, Keep Children Out of the Divorce
One father sends a message to his co-parent. He shares the heartbreak of trying to have a relationship with his son! And, the frustration with the family court.
I want to prepare my child for the future, but I’m limited. I’m subjected to mind games and humiliation due to ones beliefs. I’m looked upon as a risk and danger, that lacks capacity to raise a child. I’m seen as an aggressive monster that puts his own interest first. All these court orders have been put on me, like I’m an prisoner. When I’m alone I sit and cry, with such heart ache. No parent should be treated in such manner unless they are a danger. After wiping tears and taking a deep breath, it all makes sense. The more contact I have with my child the more he will say I miss you daddy, I love you daddy, when can I see you daddy, can I live with you daddy. You as the mother of my child shouldn’t be a alarmed by these words, be happy, why? Because it’s what our child wants. Be happy because I’m no father who makes babies and runs, be happy because I support you as far as my restrictions allow me to. The question I ask my self at the end of my tears, do you support me?
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As shared on Fathers That Care, May 18, 2015.
#108, Emotions of a Loving Daddy!
This parent shares the importance of understanding the family court system and avoiding the pitfalls that may create drama.
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During my custody battle, I came to a deeper understanding how the courts system works and how the law applied in my particular case. I persevered by demonstrating that I was rational, reasonable, and always focused on the best interest of my children. Instead of relying solely on my attorney’s advice and historical precedent, I saw the bigger picture and thought long term.
I used several tactics to my advantage. I never left or was forced out of our marital residence, I managed to avoid physical altercations by keeping my emotions in check as much as possible, avoided being taken to jail by the NYPD by calmly explaining my side of the story and kept my focus by remaining totally devoted to my two children. I always took the high road and never talked badly about my ex to our children, no matter how tempting. I still don’t-she is the mother of our kids. They love her just as much as they love me.
When there are two loving parents that want to be actively involved in their children’s lives after divorce, there is no need to travel down the expected path of family court and mandatory child and/or spousal support. Women can learn from my story and understand that just because you may no longer love the father of your https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9v9K0MVAg-8, your children do. Children need their mother AND father. Find a way to stay out of that hell hole they loosely call “Family Court.” I am living proof that there is another way.
For father’s day, give your ex the gift of letting him be a father.
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#107, Avoid the Perils of Family Court
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