Response to “Keep Fighting”, previous post.

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Amen! I was an alienated child as well… I grew to understand what was going on and my heart did beat a different tune, anytime my mom pounded it into me that my dad was a horrible person. Him and I are the closest we’ve been and he’s a GREAT man and father!

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As shared on The Fathers Rights Movement, 5-26-15.  Response to “Keep Fighting”, previous post.

#125, Overcoming PAS

A message of encouragement to parents in the midst of PAS.

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Amber Dawn

I just wanted to post on your wall, and hope that your friends and everybody else see’s this. Parental alienation is a serious matter, it’s so unfortunate that so many fathers have to be alienated from their children, and speaking from experience (being an alienated child) I know the pain, and the severity of the situation. It is unjust, and cruel, and no one should have to live without their parent/child because of someone else who is selfish by nature, and feels the need to subjugate their children because of their own negative emotions, that they cannot separate from the situation, and see just how vast the damage is, that is being done. Not only does the alienated parent have to get up everyday without their child, children are also suffering, and we all know the facts about what happens when a child feels as though one parent doesn’t want them (which sadly happens a lot of times because they cannot fathom why their father isn’t in their lives, especially young ones who cannot see the truth)

Though, I want every single father to know who is reading this, who has a child that is separated from them. No matter what kind of hostility that is being instilled in their minds, no matter how they even react to a situation, their hearts beat a different tune. They may be influenced vastly by the parent that is alienating them, but their hearts speak a different story – they still love you, they still care, and because of the harrowing situation they don’;t understand. They are being manipulated and despite what their minds are telling them, what they are being taught – they can never eradicate the love they have in their hearts for you. Speaking from experience, they miss you, they love you, and they are being taught to hate, to be hostile – this is not who they are deep down. No matter what, don’t stop fighting, because there are happy endings. You cannot manipulate somebody forever, eventually they will see the truth, and it will come back and bite the one doing the manipulation. Just know that love is the strongest bond there is, and no amount of alienation is going to destroy it. Even if their love is intangible and hard to detect or reach, it is there. Never stop fighting, and never stop believing that in each and every one of your children’s hearts, you are there.

I am so sorry to each and every one of you going through this situation. I wish you all the very best, and just know, keep fighting.

“Keep fighting – even if it breaks your heart.”

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As shared on The Fathers Rights Movement, May 26, 2015.

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids?fref=nf

#124, Keep Fighting

An adult child of divorce talks about his pain and suffering when he was abducted by his mother.  He uses his experience to advocate for stricter laws to prevent other children from the horrors he suffered. 

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A Rochester man who suffered through parental abduction as a child was in Albany on Tuesday to fight for tougher laws that will prevent other children going through a similar trauma.

Scott Berne is pushing for tougher legislation against parental abductions.

“My mother did not serve one day of jail time for kidnapping me,” Berne said. “Thirty years ago, it’s the same law.  It’s a slap on the wrist.”

“This is an issue with enormous long term consequences for children,” said Assemblywoman Shelley Mayer, D-Yonkers.

Berne joined and state Sen. Patty Ritchie, co-sponsors of the Custodial Interference/Recovery of Missing Children Act.

“It really changes the dynamic pretty dramatically, and it puts us in a better position to protect kids when those laws are enhanced,” said Ed Suk, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

According to the Justice Department, 200,000 children are abducted by their parents each year in the U.S., but in New York state, it’s just a misdemeanor.

“During those two years, we changed names constantly, didn’t go to school, had no friends, faced constant abuse from her,” Berne said.

Berne hopes his story can help change that.

“Hearing other cases is very frustrating.  Here we are 31 years later and the laws in New York State are not strong enough to keep kids safe,” Berne said.

In the early 1980s, Berne’s story made national headlines. Today, Scott works in real estate in Rochester. He’s also a strong advocate for children’s rights.

“The idea they can take their child, leave the state, the country and put their child at risk is unacceptable.”

Berne has been here before to testify on the subject.  He and lawmakers are again making a push.

“It is humbling. Gratitude, absolute gratitude that I survived and now I can use them here 31 years later in keeping kids safe, so other children don’t have to go through what I experienced.”

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Rochester NY, TWC News, by Seth Voorhees, May 19, 2015

Link with video: http://www.twcnews.com/nys/rochester/news/2015/05/19/parental-abduction-laws-.html fb_action_ids=1598196503766586&fb_action_types=og.shares

#118, Experience with PAS