This artwork titled, Even a Child, seems to evoke strong emotional memories for this artist. The parents are fighting, ignoring the child and the child is trying to hide from the unwanted noise. Note that the plant is knocked over. The shadows and muted colors reveal the ominous situation for this child. A sad depiction of divorce for one artist!
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Deviant Art, Even a Child by Jen-Jen-Rose
http://www.deviantart.com/art/Even-a-child-211770154
#90, Even a Child
A stressful scenario for anyone! Imagine how the child is impacted by the constant anxiety about ‘who is knocking at the door’. A sad depiction of divorce with parental conflict!
Anonymous: Yesterday a friend of the family stopped over unannounced. We were just sitting down to dinner and heard a knock at the door and instantly my husband and I look at each other…. Sad to think that when we hear a knock at the door we automatically think we are being served papers, but sadly enough that’s what our life has been the last 8 years. YES–we have been served that many times! We were pleasantly surprised when we opened the door to see a friend. More and more we’ve had more friends over…opened our doors and our home and let people into our lives as well. We are done hiding and feeling like we are to be shamed for our blended family and the situation we are in. We are done hiding from everyone about the constant court battles and false accusations. Friends and family have been wonderful, caring, supportive and shocked by it all. I share this, to remind you to make sure you have a good circle of support….and be open to sharing your experiences–whether good or bad. Knowledge is power and people need to know what goes on in the courts in order for change to happen, especially people who are not in our situations. Everyone needs to stop turning a blind eye to the problem.
**I look forward to the day that when we hear a knock at the door, we smile and just wonder which friend is coming to visit us and do we have enough drinks to share in the fridge.
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The Father’s Rights Movement of Wisconsin
FB: Anonymous post on March 20, 2015, 8:27 am
Link: https://www.facebook.com/TFRM.WI
#89, Who is Knocking at the Door
A very revealing pic of divorce for some children! Even the sun and sunflowers are saddened!
Quick question: Who would want to sit in the middle of this ‘parent’s conversation’?
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As shared on FB page of Single Fathers Association of America, February 19, 2015
https://www.facebook.com/pages/Single-Fathers-Association-of-America/1432932546928423
#88, STOP!
A profound depiction of divorce for some parents. Seemingly, this artistic flair reflects one of the perils of the family court system.
Use this as a reminder that…………………………………………………………………… Divorce that.is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!…………. LOVE WINS!!!! LOVE WINS!!!! LOVE WINS!!!! LOVE WINS!!!!
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As shared on FB page:
The Fathers’ Rights Movement of Wisconsin, March 19, 2015.
Facebook page link: https://www.facebook.com/TFRM.WI
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#87, A Fathers’ Plight
This shows how anger is passed on in the family. This child is demonstrating the emotions observed in the home. If a child is raised in a home where one parent constantly criticizes and belittles the other, the child learns to criticize and belittle others and themselves. Sadly, the negative perception is considered ‘normal behavior’ and carries over into new relationships.
High conflict divorces may complicate how the child deals with conflict. No one is born with an anger problem. Anger and aggressive response styles are learned behaviors.
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Pic from post on FB page for Dr Kaylene Henderson- Child Psychiatrist, Feb 26, 2015.
Post link: https://www.facebook.com/drkaylenehenderson/photos/pb.340509142667649.-2207520000.1427041318./865966270121931/?type=3&theater
FB page link: https://www.facebook.com/drkaylenehenderson
#86, Legacy of Anger
This artwork shows how the parents are on different sides and reveals how the child feels that he needs to choose. There are three side to choose from: One parent, the other parent, AND the CHILD!
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Giorgio Ceccarelli, La MOSTRA dei QUADRI di Roberto Gallo, on Facebook page Festa del Papa.
https://www.facebook.com/giorgio.ceccarelli1?fref=ts&ref=br_tf
#85, Pick A Side
This drawing is one artists’ view of divorce and is called “reflection of divorce.” Note, the words are in French; This speaks to the global issues of custody and the turmoil of divorce for the child.
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Giorgio Ceccarelli, La MOSTRA dei QUADRI di Roberto Gallo, 2-27-2015 on Facebook page Festa del Papa.
https://www.facebook.com/giorgio.ceccarelli1?fref=ts&ref=br_tf
#84, Maman et Papa
Words of wisdom for parents.
– Constance Ahrons
Interviews from three adult children of divorce. The last question is “give 6 words to describe yourself as an adult child of divorce. ” Responses reveal the lingering influence of divorce.
Adults were under the age of 18 at the time of their parent’s divorce and living with their parents.
Hortencia, 48
Married for 30 years
1. How old were you when your parents divorced?
I was 2 ½ years old.
2. What is your strongest memory of your parents’ divorce?
It became a usual routine to wake up and not see my mother there because she would be working since my father was no longer there to provide for us.
We didn’t grow up as a family we were eventually all separated because my mom would work and father wasn’t there and my siblings and I were sent off to live with aunts. I didn’t really get to know my mother until I was an adolescent when I moved back to live with her.
3. What coping mechanism did you adopt?
I had support from my family—cousins and aunts. Some of them were going through the same situation, so we helped each other out and we never made each other feel any less because of it. I looked to them for support.
4. Do you feel differently about your parents’ divorce now that you are an adult?
Yes. I used to think that my parent’s divorce wasn’t a bad thing and that we were all better off this way. But now that years have passed, I see how it has really affected my mother the most. She never remarried and as she grows older I see how lonely she is and how I would have liked for her to have someone to spend her days with.
I feel guilty that I can’t do more for her.
5. As an adult if you could go back to yourself as a child and tell that child something, what would it be?
It might sound silly but I would tell her that everything will be fine. I would also tell her that dreams do come true. I wanted a family and I now I have what I always wanted.
6. Give me 6 words to describe you as an adult child of a divorce.
NOT A PERSON THAT TRUSTS EASILY
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Sara, 38 years old
Married
1. How old were you when your parents divorced?
13 years old
2. What is your strongest memory of your parents’ divorce?
That they finally did it. They did something to stop the fighting.
3. What coping mechanism did you adopt?
4. Do you fell differently about your parents’ divorce now that you are an adult?
Feel the same, happy
5. As an adult if you could go back to yourself as a child and tell that child something, what would it be?
This is going to get better. It will be over soon.
6. Give me six words to describe you as an adult child of divorce.
CAREFUL IN CHOOSING A GOOD HUSBAND
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Melissa, 25 years old
Engaged
1. How old were you when your parents divorced?
11 years old
2. What is your strongest memory of your parents’ divorce?
When my dad told us he was seeing another woman, I fell to the ground sobbing and crying. My brother picked me up and carried me to my room.
3. What coping mechanism did you adopt?
I had 2. One was eating. That is when I started to gain weight. The other was saying “I don’t care”. There was a period between 11-17 that I always answered- I don’t care. It was me not being trusting. I broke up with my fiancée in High School because it was too deep.
4. Do you feel differently about your parents’ divorce now that you are an adult?
Yes, my mother is happier than she ever has been. That means the world to me.
5. As an adult if you could go back to yourself as a child and tell that child something, what would it be?
I don’t think anything would have helped me feel better about my dad leaving us. It was hypocritical because he told us not to lie but his whole life was a lie.
6. Give me 6 words to describe you as an adult child of a divorce.
WE WILL NOT BE LIKE YOU
The journey of divorce changes everyone and everything. The most compelling comment in this writing is by far “I hate to see kids worry about their parents when they should be developing childhood stories and memories.” This is the sadness of divorce! The child, oftentimes, is nudged in the direction of dealing with the adult issues of divorce.
I once heard Darren Hardy of Success magazine speak. He said, “that in order to find your message, you need to know what you hate.”
I hate, really deeply and to my core hate to see real men of integrity go through the journey of divorce and behave badly, in a way not consistent with their character.
I hate the way the people around us behave as we take the journey of divorce. I hate the rumors. I hate the taking sides and slanderous talk. I hate the bad advice. I hate the way kids are damaged. I hate the way kids are used as pawns. I hate the way kids are used as property. I hate to see kids worry about their parents when they should be developing childhood stories and memories.
I hate the typical legal battles that are all about winning in terms of assets and property. I hate it when successful guys fight over something like paying for private school, or college,or clothes, or whatever. If they planned on paying before divorce, why would they not pay after divorce?
I hate to see real men demasculinized by the process and by the humbling nature of something that seems like such a failure. It is the “what’s wrong with me” syndrome.
I hate to see real men looking and feeling lost.
I hate the way men that truly love women start hating women. I hate it when love is transformed into hate.
I hate the question, “so why did you get divorced?” as if there was a simple answer. The answer goes very deep into our being, and is only superficially explained with one of the so-called “top ten reasons for divorce”
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Shared from Cliff Thomas, Why I Hate Divorce.
Post link:http://drcliffthomas.com/why-i-hate-divorce-2/
Site link: drcliffthomas.com
#81 , Why I Hate Divorce
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