Everything is My Fault!

 

Many time, a child will think the divorce is their fault!  They will think about something they did wrong; acting out at school, poor grades, not doing tasks around the house ask.  They will ask :”What did I do?” “did I do something to make one parent go away? ”  Encourage your child to talk about their feelings.  Work together with your co-parent.  Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!

Can we work it out?
Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better.
Daddy, please don’t leave…–P!nk

A heart-wrenching depiction of divorce!

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Over the Garden Wall (c) Pat McHale

Deviant Art.  Over the Garden Wall by AMX-269

http://www.deviantart.com/art/Over-the-Garden-Wall-Family-Portrait-497363566

#287, Everything is My Fault

Which Way?

 

At the proverbial cross roads in life!  Which way should I go?  Mommy or daddy?  Mommy or daddy?  This black and white photo is upstaged by the adorable, fluffy bear.  Is this something that she treasures?  An object she can turn to when confused, lonely or sad?  Hopefully, her parents are able to comfort her and fulfill her emotional needs.  Divorce can be a confusing time for the child!

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# 282, Which way?

My Family

 

Artist comments: “My mom divorced of my dad when I was 4 years old, then takes care of me and my brother Max alone today. My mom works at a company secretary to earn money for my house and back very late dinner time, my brother takes care of me most of the day so I’m not alone in the house why he has 13 years.”

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Deviant Art. Homework: my family by AskLiza1

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Homwork-my-family-482114076

#281, My Family

My Parents are Divorced Too

 

This artist explains the artwork is made “because my parents are divorced”. Two friends are talking about their parents’ divorce. Both individuals in this picture look very sad. The dog has a pink heart attached yet still looks lost and forlorn.  The words spoken in describing the divorce are quite revealing. A sad representation of divorce.   

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Deviant Art, Because my Parents are divorced by timmythetrainguy.

# 278 , My Parents are Divorced Too

STOP IT!

 

One picture is worth a thousand words!

Parental conflict is distressing, stressful and has long term consequences on the child!  A child in the midst of parental conflict is more likely to engage in drinking, drugging, sexing, and delinquent behaviors.  They are at an increased risk for social problems, academic problems and experience difficulty in relationships.  Simply, parental conflict brings  havoc in your child’s life.

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#274, STOP IT!!

Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce

 

“There are few parenting moments more difficult than having to answer your kids’ questions about the divorce.

No matter how much you prepared yourself for their inevitable confusion, those moments still manage to catch you off guard. How are you supposed to help them wrap their heads around life after divorce when you’re still struggling to get a handle on it yourself?”

Here are the questions kids asked:

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1. “I just want you and daddy to be in the same house. Can’t you just be roommates? For me?”

2. “When I told my 6-year-old son about the split, he said, ‘Does this mean we’ll be daddy-less kids?’ Now that hurt.”

3. “My 10-year-old son Michael asked, ‘Will this home always be here for us?'”

4. “Will your new wife be our aunt, or what? ‘Cause we already have a mom.”

5. “At age five, my child asked, ‘When does your heart tell your brain — or your brain tell your heart — you’re not in love anymore?'”

6. “‘Why did daddy break his promise to us?‘ He had promised to find a place to live close to us… then he moved to another city.”

7. “What will happen when I get married and you two can’t even be in the same room together at my wedding?”

8. “Why can’t daddy’s girlfriend just live here, too?”

9. “‘How come you don’t spend the night anymore?’ and later, ‘How come you and mommy didn’t get along?'”

10. “Why didn’t you leave dad a long time ago?”

11. “‘Why doesn’t daddy love us anymore?’ They haven’t seen him in one and a half years.”

12. “Why don’t you and daddy just stay together and work it out? You are supposed to be a team and a team works together, right?”

13. “Is it my fault?

 

Huffington Post Article.  13 Utterly Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce

Link to article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/17/kids-and-divorce_n_5503935.html?utm_hp_ref=children-of-divorce

#265, Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce

Family and Future

 

A descriptive piece of art sharing the key emotional issues of divorce; Family, Future, Self and Life .  Seeing the heart behind bars is quite revealing. The lower left quadrant seems representative of the overall theme.  The dark background, LIES, a bottle (alcoholism perhaps?), the appearance of facial structures out of sun rays.  The ‘smile’ on the face appears forced-for obvious reasons when looking at the full pic.   

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Artwork by Jennifer Michelle.

#264, Family and Future

Unhappy Homes

 

A very descriptive piece of artwork.  House is split down the middle with a jaw like sharp edge.  Perhaps indicating the roughness of this emotional experience.  Notably, the ‘pappa’ does not have a door :(.  Both parents appear very sad.

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#258, Unhappy Homes

Stop Fighting

 

WOW!!!!! A very revealing pic!  The focus on the face.  The tears,  Seeing the parents reflection in the eyes of the child is quite riveting.  An unfortunate experience of divorce.  

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Alex Thomas.  Stop Fighting

#251, Stop Fighting

Who Do I Choose?!

 

Perhaps the better question is:  WHY do I have to choose?  How distressing for a child to have to choose which parent to side with.

DIVORCE IS BETWEEN THE PARENTS_
ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!!

LOVE WINS!!!  LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!

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#245, Who Do I Choose?