A sad picture of divorce.

Mom is in the car going toward dad.  Or, is she just going to leave him standing in the street with his suitcase? Regardless, Dad is standing in the street with a startled look on his face. Maybe he is saying “Stop the car. I want to talk to you.  I want to see my child.” His arms are open indicating he is open to communicating. Will the mom stop? Will this dad have an opportunity to spend time with his child before mom leaves?

Is there significance to the symbol M (Mom?) at top and bottom of page.

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Divorceandkids.com

http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#SADNESS

#198, What Now?

Keep in mind that one theory in artwork of divorce involves that the parent draws the picture.  The parent portrays the child’s perspective as to what they want to see their child experiencing.  Is that the case here?

Either way: This sophisticated art work shows a common theme of two houses; one with mom and  a house with dad.  The overall presentation is happy and colorful indicating adjustment to the divorce and perhaps, parents who work together.  

Dad’s house is much larger-is this the reality of dad’s home or what the child has been led to believe? There are two doors on dad’s house indicating ________???  Stairs on the side of dad’s house lead to something?  The awning on dad’s house may indicate protection.

A happy girl in the center completes the picture!

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#163, Two Houses

Four simple words!  Are the red and green lights indicating a stop and go relationship?  That sometimes loving daddy is ok and sometimes showing love for daddy is not ok?

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Link:  http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/51/05/65/510565edf47668fed0c5cfe5d4eb3c0e.jpg

#160, I Love You Daddy!

Here is what children are saying about divorce!  This is compilation of some of the quotes from several videos.  Links to all videos are shared.

Some of these comments are absolutely heart wrenching illuminating the fact the the most innocent victim of divorce is…THE CHILD!

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Link to video: https://youtu.be/3iPkHdYLuuA

“Sometimes people talk about what their moms or dads are doing this weekend.’ 2:16 mark

“Saw my dad 3 or 4 times per year.” !!!!! 3:17 mark

“I don’t’ trust father figures and I disrespect adults beause I don’t think I can trust any adults.” 3:31

Link to video: https://youtu.be/ONnqACB-FeM

“my biggest concern is that all five of us will start getting more and more unhappy.” (a big burden for a 9 year old)

“Sometimes I feel like I caused the divorce.” (a common response)

Excellent question!  This boy poses this question to his Father Mentor.  A program that pairs a boy without a father figure in his life with a father mentor.   

“If my parents loved each other enough to get married and make a baby….. why did they fight so much and break our family apart ? It makes no sense to me.”

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Fathers in the Field, March 11, 2015

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/fathersinthefield?fref=ts

#93, A Fatherless Boys Question

A profound statement!  This comes from a boy who is in a father mentoring program because his real father is not in his life.  

“Now they say home is where the hate is”.

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Fathers in the Field, March 24, 2015.

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/fathersinthefield?fref=ts

#92, Statement from a Fatherless Boy

This young artist seems to have created the ‘new’ family arrangement.  A BIG X removes the dad from the picture.  A pronounced feature of this drawing is the sadness.  Each member of the family is created with a sad face and tears streaming down.  Even the infant has a sad face!

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Drawing as shown on Divorce and kids.  http://www.divorceandkids.com

Link to drawing: http://www.divorceandkids.com/images/Drawing_4.jpg

#75, Sad Family

One young artist shares a happy “before” drawing on top, and a grim “after” in the bottom picture.  This reveals the heartache of divorce for one child.  This speaks more to the parents making efforts to place the focus on on the child and meeting the emotional needs of the child.  Parental conflict, fighting and bickering impacts the child at an emotional level as seen in the happy pic and the sad drawing.

“Before”

“After”

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Drawings from KID’S FIRST PROGRAM

“Before and After”, appeared in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin Hawaii News, August 26, 2001,  by Debra Barayuga

dbarayuga@starbulletin.comarchives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

http://archives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

#72, Before and After

This drawing by an 11-year-old describes a man and woman fighting “blah, blah, blah, blah”.  A sun with a sad face appears above.    The young artist says “I want you to stop arguing with each other because it doesn’t make me feel good,”  

Drawings from KID’S FIRST PROGRAM

“Blah, Blah, Blah”.  Aappeared in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin, August 26, 2001,  by Debra Barayuga

dbarayuga@starbulletin.comarchives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

http://archives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

#70, Blah Blah Blah

This child shows how the family is divided.  The heart in the center is clearly broken.  Both parents  are fighting and turned away from each other.  More importantly, neither parent is focused on the child.    The question mark indicates the child does not understand what is happening.  A very sad picture of divorce!

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Drawings from KID’S FIRST PROGRAM

“I Don’t Care”, appeared in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin Hawaii News, August 26, 2001,  by Debra Barayuga

dbarayuga@starbulletin.comarchives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

http://archives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

#69, I Don’t Care