This artist takes a unique approach in expressing concern about the high divorce rate and sends the message: “To all couples: think of your kids dreams and emotions before tearing them up by divorce!” Note: The facial expression of the girl conveys a message of concern for the child in the midst of divorce. The way the picture is split up and torn from the center illuminates the artist’s message to parents perfectly.
“Divorce” by artist emaghrabi
This artist used a camera to “represent divorce in the way of a family being torn apart, literally.”
Divorce by Artist: BriBee
Artist experimenting with a camera to create a pic about divorce.
This artist recreated an existing photo and is about divorce splitting families in half.
“Divorce” by artist Daniwolf
An adults’ heart wrenching depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective. Notice the parents moving in separate directions. Note the trash bin with the heart, photo album and teddy bear.
Divorce: VivalaVida
An adult child of divorce shares how her family changed with divorce.
One adult child of divorce shares feelings on divorce and spending childhood trying to live in two homes.
As a kid I always had two birthday parties. For most, this may sound really great but it wasn’t all that it was cracked up to be. My parent’s are divorced. I spent my childhood going back and forth between homes. My life was not my own. My parent’s “agreement” dictated where I would go for which holiday and for how long.
The truth is that I never really felt that I belonged in either home after my parents remarried.
One mother shares the heartache of experiencing PAS with her husband’s co-parent and how she found peace in her heart and her story of learning to forgive.
The next two years became an uphill battle for us. Having to watch everything we did because every couple of months she would get upset about something and cut all contact off for a month at a time. Eventually increasing to two months, and finally two full years.
After these family meetings we would soak up every minute with our daughter. Even if we had to deal with random drop ins after her boyfriend got home from work. He missed the baby all day. He wants to spend an hour with her. Then we’d get a phone call that typically came at the end of that hour explaining how she fell asleep or wasn’t feeling good. Our visit was over. We learned to treasure each moment with her.
We caught one last glimpse of what we had left on our visit home for Christmas. Eleven solid months in, of us finally getting along. The first and last “family” Christmas we had together. After the New Year she pulled away from us. Her boyfriend erasing us from their life. Erasing the memory of us from our daughter. Pulling both of them into a life of drugs and solitude. Changing phone numbers and moving to keep us away. Hiding our little girl’s face anytime they’d run into our friends and family. Keeping to themselves.
Despite seeing the hurt all over his face when we finally reunite with our little girl and we hear her say “I already have a daddy.”
My heart sees beyond the anger, betrayal, and alienation it has faced. To the heart of someone who was led astray.
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Faun shares the importance of parents and how making peace with your parents is making peace with yourself. Thank you Faun for sharing this beautiful story!
Regardless of the details of my story I am here to tell you that there are no winners in estrangement. As justified as you may believe that you are in estranging from your parents, it is not healthy. It is not normal. It is not an act of love. If anything it is an act of intolerance.
The saddest thing for you is that if you have children, no matter their ages and or how close you may be at this time, by virtue of the fact that you have chosen this, you have now modeled behavior for your own children. They are very likely to dismiss you from their lives the same way they have witnessed you do it to your mother and/or father. Believe it. Case studies support this.
What you are in essence modeling for your own children is that 1) parents aren’t important and can be easily erased from your life 2) disrespect 3) silent treatment 4) judgment 5) lack of tolerance and lack of forgiveness. What you are losing is your roots, your family history and heritage. If you are a biological child you miss out on your family health history. Your children are missing out on knowing their family and their grandparents. Lost years can never be made up.
I believe that most all parents love their children. Maybe it isn’t perfect but they aren’t perfect and neither are you. No one is perfect.
Like many of you I have other relationships that I created through the years, I have “other mothers” and “other children” that I have loved and have loved me too. They have helped me to heal and to fill many of the voids. But the reality is that no one can take the place of our birth parents. That history cannot be re-written. And our children come from us. They are a part of our being and our souls and our hearts are forever connected.
Do you need to be “right?” or do you need “peace?” Loving ourselves allows us to love others, loving our parents is an extension of self-love because whether you like it or not, that is where you come from.
No one said that you have to see them every day, no one said you have to speak with them every day but having peace with your parents is what you do for yourself. Remember one day your child will grow up and they too will judge you. Could you measure up to the same yardstick you have chosen to use to measure mom or dad? Would you want your grown adult child treating you the same way that you have chosen to treat your parents?
It’s not over until we take our last breathe. Making peace with your parents is making peace with yourself. Forgiveness is the gift that you give to yourself!
Make 2015 the year of love and of forgiveness and watch how much better your life becomes when you aren’t holding onto anger or ill will toward others. Bernadette Moyers
Story shared by Faun Witten on FaceBook, 2-16-15
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“I cannot even say the words. A huge emptiness would well in my stomach, a deep loathing for those who would deign to tell me they would ALLOW me ACCESS to my children – those I loved above all, those I created, those who gave meaning to everything I did, those who were the very best of us two and the absolute physical manifestation of our once blinding love. Who the hell are they that they should ALLOW anything? REASONABLE CONTACT!!! Is the law mad? Am I a criminal? An ABSENT parent. A RESIDENT/NON-RESIDENT parent. This Lawspeak which you all speak so fluently, so unthinkingly, so hurtfully, must go.
One father shares his heartache about the separation from his daughters.
To my daughters,
I miss you and love you very much. I promise we will get through this abuse and have a normal life someday soon. You are both so brave and strong to be dealing with this, hang in there, daddy is here for you.
xoxoxo
Parental Alienation Victims July 30, 2011 https://www.facebook.com/pages/Parental-Alienation-Victims/179750045416800
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