Category Archives: All Confessions

Solicitor Agrees

April 29, 2018 By in All Confessions, Parental Experiences, Psychological Abuse-child

 

Is family court fair? Do both parents have equal rights?  What ruling should be made? Sometimes, judges and attorneys know what the outcome should be in custody rulings  One parent shares their devastating experience in family court. 

“I had the exact same situation today in court (in discussing a similar case) she was caught right out lying on several occasions and I lost.  I told how she mistreated me and the kids.  Without hesitation the judge gave it (custody) to her.  The solicitor said I should have won.  I’m appealing”.

#511, Solicitor Agrees

 

Parents Fighting Badly

April 29, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

First fight? Undoubtedly, this is not the first time this young lady has over heard her parents arguing. Pointing fingers, red faces, mean expressions…..a bad fight between parents. The adolescent is in the middle. Does she look  exasperated?  Is there meaning to her appearing below the parents?

Divorce is between the parents and about the child!

#510, Parents Fighting Badly

50-50 Custody!

April 29, 2018 By in All Confessions, Parental Experiences

 

A great message for fathers seeking custody (mothers too). Both parents are fighting for parental rights.  Fighting for the rights of the child.  A child needs and wants to have a relationship with both parents.  This pic represents an unfortunate reality for many fathers (and  mothers).  Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

 

#509, 50-50 Custody!

Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

Tears and Confusion

March 30, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

A picture of confusion and sadness. This child appears distraught with large  flowing tears.  Facial expression on parents and pointed fingers create an undeniably upsetting situation for this child.   A jagged line projecting out of the head of the child may represent confusion due to parental conflict. Perhaps, the light blue tears represent feelings of of sadness. Does that mean the large darker blue puddle indicate ongoing issues of being put in the middle.  Are these parents aware of how sad this child appears?  Does this child have someone to turn to that could offer emotional support?

Parental conflict is confusing to the child.  Both parents seem focused on fighting while the child  between them is understandably upset. 

 

#507, Tears and Confusion

Consistency

March 4, 2018 By in All Confessions, Narcissistic Tendencies

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies may create a world of confusion and frustration for everyone involved. This may result in the child learning maladaptive communication skills. Impacting future relationships for the child.

#505, They are Consistent

Categories: Impact on child, Narcissistic tendencies

I’m Fine…

February 18, 2018 By in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

A painful reality of parental alienation.  A parent may act as if everything is ok while they may be experiencing grief and turmoil. Numerous support groups are available for parents and family  members who cannot see their child due to custody and divorce matters.

#504, I’m Fine…

The Happy Mask

February 18, 2018 By in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions, Artwork About Child

An adult child shares a glimpse into their emotional world.  The child learns at an early age to put aside their desires to please their parent. This is at the expense of their own emotional needs, feelings, and wants. The emotional abuse may be revealed in all future relationships. Emotional abuse during childhood has long-term ramifications.

#503, The Happy Mask

Two

February 4, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This is a colorful presentation of divorce. The black backdrop adds to the drama and emotional impact. A split heart with two parents who both seem distraught with tears. Two children are floating as if being tossed from the small house in between them. This artwork is used to show a child how divorce may feel. Sadly, the ridges on each side of the heart, and both children without a strong attachment to anything are realistic.  

#502, Two

 

 

Truth?

January 28, 2018 By in All Confessions, Narcissistic Tendencies

 

The stories told  in childhood and in adulthood are firmly established and become the “truth. With an individual who has narcissistic tendencies there is only one side to the story. This is frustrating for co-parents and confusing for the child. Children learn about relationships by observing parental interactions. Continual exposure to untruths and lack of interest in another individuals’ experience may be devastating for the child. 

#500, Truth?

 

Who is the Parent?

January 28, 2018 By in All Confessions, Narcissistic Tendencies

 

A parentified child of divorce sacrifices their needs to care for the parent and the parent gives up their role to one or more of their children. A parentified child expresses ‘concern’ for the parent while the healthy emotional bond is absent. In essence, the child is not allowed to be a child. This dynamic has long-term negative consequences for the child and will be realized in interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships throughout the life of the child.

#499, Who is the Parent?