A child in the middle holding on to both parents. “Quality relationships of parents with their children are the greatest antidote to the negative consequences from divorce.”
~John Chirban Ph.D., Th.D.
#546, Holding On
Category Archives: All Confessions
Part of Both Parents
Children are a part of both parents. The red heart appearing front and center is prominent. This artwork demonstrates the basis of the family unit. Divorce does not change that. Requesting a child to reject one parent is asking the child to give up part of who they are.
#545, Part of Both Parents
Large Rain Drops
Large rain drops are coming down and all around the home. Dark clouds are looming above with bolts of lightening. Notably, each window has a happy face peering out. A happy person is sitting in the house to the side. Is this the artist? Or, a parent? A curious drawing with stormy weather and happy faces.
#544, Large Rain Drops
Daughter:Knows Father Cared
An emotional story of an adult child of divorce as she shares the experience of how her mom smeared the character of her father and filed fraudulent documents in effort to ‘win’ in family court. This scenario shows there are NO winners when one parent attempts to keep the child from another parent. All parties lose-Every- Single-Time.
Divorce is between the parents-About the child!
In all my memories I can honestly say that NO ONE other than dad truly cared about me, or what was in my best interest. Even though my mom alienated us from him. smeared his character in the courts perspective and filed such fraudulent documents against him my dad never once spoke ill about my mom to me.
Instead he always said ‘she wasn’t always like that’ when I tried to talk to him about what she had done. My mom may of felt she was ‘winning’ in court but she loses in the long run as I still want nothing to do with her. In my opinion everyone loses in this case!
The courts allowed her to lie like this, which lead to my dad being mis-labeled as mentally ill. It was lies like this that has lead me to not want anything to do with her! Still to this day she will not admit to any of it, still blames everyone else!
https://www.brainsyntax.com/Home/MessageDetail/2688
#543, Daughter:Knows Father Cared
Time to be Brave
A talented artist uses creativity to convey her thoughts about a possible parental divorce. The eyes and sad face indicate concern about what will happen next. While the other part is happy. Fortunately, for this adolescent, the divorce did not take place. This artist states “t’s time to be brave. Time to be smart and brave and hardworking for a fair outcome. I couldn’t turn 18 soon enough…”. Divorce is between the parents and should be about the child!
#539, Time to be Brave
Deviant Art; Daily Draw 16 Divorce by Whitehershey, https://www.deviantart.com/whitehershey/art/Daily-Draw-16-Divorce-736922371
Reality of Divorce
When one parent states they want a divorce a common question from the other parent is ‘what about the children’. Thinking about how divorce will impact your child is a valid concern. Divorce brings about many changes for everyone-especially for your child. Their world is changing at an emotional, physical and possibly financially level. This is especially true when one parent moves out, relocates and/or resides with a new spouse.
#536, Reality of Divorce
Unraveled
An emotionally captivating expression of divorce. This child seems stuck in the middle in what was once his home. Two individuals/parents(?)are unraveling the home life of this child. This boy appears terribly distraught; crouched and hiding his face. Do these parents have any idea what they are doing to their child? A a most bewildering depiction of divorce.
#474, Unraveled
Happy on the Outside
Standing under blue skies and white clouds a child surrounded by sporting event balls appears smiling. The words state “I’m happy on the outside to everyone I know.” This child seems to be presenting as a happy person to everyone and sad on the inside. Divorce and custody may be distressing to some children. Offering emotional support is important.
#533, Happy on the Outside
Reality of Exchanges
This is a most unfortunate reality for some parents in a high conflict divorce. A drop zone created by the city to accommodate parents who will not be nice during the exchange. Security cameras are watching the area for any outbursts or abnormal behavior. Notably, there are many parents even missing out on this!
How long is the 2 minute exchange? http://www.sharedparentinginfo.com/two-minute-exchange.html
Words Do Hurt
“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me” may be a rhyme; however, the reality is words do hurt. In fact, emotional and verbal abuse by a parent has long-term implications of which the victim may never fully recover. Physical scars may heal. Emotional scars created by harsh words may never fully go away.
#506, Words Do Hurt
Categories: Impact on child, Psychological abuse
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