One father shares his thoughts of love and hope.
To my daughters, I miss you and love you very much. I promise we will get through this abuse and have a normal life someday soon. You are both so brave and strong to be dealing with this, hang in there, daddy is here for you.
xoxoxo
Shared on Parental Alienation Victims, Community FB page, July 30, 2011
Link: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Parental-Alienation-Victims/179750045416800?fref=pb&hc_location=profile_browser
Words of wisdom for parents.
Divorce is between the parents-About the CHILD!
LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!
Divorce or separation with children should not be about court, judges, attorneys, contempt motions, money or property. It should also not be about the destruction of a family. What it should be about, is the CHILDREN, and how both parents can create a healthy family life for their children between two homes.
Shared from Parental Alienation Victims, Community FB page, 8-13-2011.
Link: https://www.facebook.com/pages/Parental-Alienation-Victims/179750045416800?fref=pb&hc_location=profile_browser
One mother shares her despair in hearing her daughter say “we have a new mommy now.”
I recall years ago going to my daughters birthday party. I was ‘allowed’ to come in and was directed to the seating area near the door. As my oldest daughter is opening her gift my younger daughter says “We have a new mommy now. We don’t want you to come here anymore.” I am not sure what happened next because I was dazed. The room was spinning. I sat there stunned. I was unable to speak. My sweet children did not know that the divorce was not my idea. I loved being a mother and taking care of my family I did not want to go through each day without seeing my children. Instead, the daily nightmare I was living dragged into weeks, then months, that resulted in years of not seeing my children.
My girls showed up one day-years later. They found me and I was thrilled. I am forever haunted by the discouraging words said by my youngest daughter and the feeling of total despair.
One adult child of divorce shares feelings on divorce and spending childhood trying to live in two homes.
As a kid I always had two birthday parties. For most, this may sound really great but it wasn’t all that it was cracked up to be. My parent’s are divorced. I spent my childhood going back and forth between homes. My life was not my own. My parent’s “agreement” dictated where I would go for which holiday and for how long.
The truth is that I never really felt that I belonged in either home after my parents remarried.
One father shares his feelings on missing the daily activities.
“(It) was really hard right at first with the divorce because you go through a period of time where, as a father, you’re so lonely in the first place, you want to overcompensate, you want to show the kids that you love them so much and that you care about them so much…you miss that relationship so much. When you go from having them every day, you know, the day to day things, as a father you miss tucking them into bed, saying their prayers, reading a book. It might just be coming home from work and asking them how their day at school was. It can be anything like that.”
As shared on Fatherwork
One father shares how he misses out on the day-to-day activities of his children’s lives.
“It was a tremendous feeling of loss for me. Even more so, it was a tremendous regret. To think about what it’s like when children first get up in the morning and they’re kind of sleepy-eyed and to give them a big hug and a kiss to be with them at the end of the day and to have dinner with them on a regular basis. The ability to just “have” all the little thing.
“The opportunities to express love and to give them a hug and to smile and ask them a question….just to be interested in what is going on in their everyday school lives, and all the little school programs that they’ve done that I wasn’t able to fly in for that were happening all the time. I always felt a tremendous sense of loss and that hurt.”
As shared on Fatherwork
One parent’s heart-break.
One mother shares the heartache of experiencing PAS with her husband’s co-parent and how she found peace in her heart and her story of learning to forgive.
The next two years became an uphill battle for us. Having to watch everything we did because every couple of months she would get upset about something and cut all contact off for a month at a time. Eventually increasing to two months, and finally two full years.
After these family meetings we would soak up every minute with our daughter. Even if we had to deal with random drop ins after her boyfriend got home from work. He missed the baby all day. He wants to spend an hour with her. Then we’d get a phone call that typically came at the end of that hour explaining how she fell asleep or wasn’t feeling good. Our visit was over. We learned to treasure each moment with her.
We caught one last glimpse of what we had left on our visit home for Christmas. Eleven solid months in, of us finally getting along. The first and last “family” Christmas we had together. After the New Year she pulled away from us. Her boyfriend erasing us from their life. Erasing the memory of us from our daughter. Pulling both of them into a life of drugs and solitude. Changing phone numbers and moving to keep us away. Hiding our little girl’s face anytime they’d run into our friends and family. Keeping to themselves.
Despite seeing the hurt all over his face when we finally reunite with our little girl and we hear her say “I already have a daddy.”
My heart sees beyond the anger, betrayal, and alienation it has faced. To the heart of someone who was led astray.
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One mother shares her thoughts on being a single parent.
One parent expresses endless love for her children.
My sons ! I have never stopped loving you and never will .
You are both the loves of my life. My angels!
Mom xo
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