Sadness of Divorce

 

Here is the true sadness of divorce.  

One father expresses discouragement in not seeing his children every day.  

 

“I always experienced a tremendous feeling of sadness and hurt. I always had a feeling that no matter how hard you were trying and no matter how much time, there’s no way you can turn one or two visits a month into normal parenting. No matter how you cut it, you come up short and you feel it. You always come up a day late and a dollar short. It’s a tremendous sense of hurt. You want a full experience as a father, you want them to feel full love and you want them to feel it continually.”

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As shared in Fatherwork.  

Link to FB Page: http://fatherwork.byu.edu/nonCustodial.htm

#176, Sadness of Divorce

Abomination-Abandoned Child

 

This artist captures the horrible reality of divorce for some children!

Artists’ commentary: She was -like another victim of a divorce- abandoned by their parents, and lived in fear and misery. She had no place to go, and finally kill herself.. The dark power of vengeance raise her from death, and filled her with fury in her empty eyes.

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Deviant Art, Abomination-Abandoned Child, by beanystergates.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548

#175, Abomination,Abandoned Child

Symbolism of Divorce

 

Artist describes her creation!

Statements in bold by Shared Parenting Confessional.

The gray woman on the far right. She can represent the girlfriend/parent/best friend/whatever-you-want-to-call-it on one of the parents side. This person is firm in what she believes in, she’s set in stone in what she believes, thus the reason why she’s gray.

However, her ear is only half the size it should be, and she’s missing the pupil in her eye to show that she only gets half of the story.

The parents. Each parent is wearing ear plugs and blindfolds, showing that they are oblivious to anything else except for what they believe is their right and what is for their benefit.

The fact that they both eventually turn into trees show that they are firmly rooted that what they say about the divorce is right.
The colors represent two things: anger and having a hard heart. So often, the parents are angry at each other, pointing fingers at one another, while showing no compassion for someone they once loved.
The vines on them represent communication, and the leaves represent each lie, each nasty comment said about each other. The fact that each adult has a leaf of the other spouse shows that they were married.

The mom is placed a little higher than the father, representing custody, and how a parent can have the upper hand on persuading a child against her other parent.

Now, for the little girl. She is wearing white to show that she is still an innocent child, that she has done nothing wrong.

Her eyes are covered, while her mouth is open wide in scream, symbolizing that the child shouldn’t just be another item for the parents; that she needs to be heard, not seen.

The bandage on her head represents the emotional/mental trauma a child suffers when the parents divorce.

The girl is wearing ballet slippers, but they are bound with bandages. So often, a childs’ hopes and dreams are affected because of the divorce.
Lastly, the vines and leaves that wrap around her show that she is surrounded by her parents lies and harsh words towards the other parent.

I hate it when divorced people put their child in the middle of the situation. It can truly cause emotional and mental damage to the child. Nor is it fair to the child simply because they are not the reason why the parents are now divorced. But because of our stubborn trait, we sometimes unknowingly put the child smack dab in the middle of the battlefield.

Please, protect the children that are going through divorce, that they might not suffer an abuse that is too often over-looked.

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Deviant Art deviant art divorce_by_strong_forever, by Strong Forever.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548

#174, Symbolism of Divorce

The Abyss

 

A deeper meaning of divorce:

“Now imagine a divorced couple, and then their little girl child. That child is always performing a dance on the rope, travelling from the cliff that is mother to the cliff that is father, the divorce the abyss it has to defeat.”

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Deviant Art, The Abyss, by Oshiruko.

Link to pic and read artists’ full commentary: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Abyss-306167251

#172, The Abyss

Parental Alienation is Real

 

The trickery of parental alienation will be revealed.  Nothing can remain a secret forever!  This is especially true with PAS.

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They DO KNOW…… Don’t fool yourself by thinking their just kids and they’ll never know. They see EVERYTHING!  They KNOW what you did. They know you lied….. about…… EVERYTHING!

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#171, Parental Alienation is Real

Be the Bigger Person

 

The time is never too late to do the right thing!

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Be the bigger/ better person. Don’t teach your child to hate their other parent. It’s time to do the right thing. Put your kids and their best intetest first. STOP fighting & start co parenting! Kids need both parents! Please help us raise awareness….

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Shared on Supporters of Shared Parenting Headquarters, May 26, 2015

#170, Be the Bigger Person

Real Parents

 

Real parents vs. parents who engage in tactics of parental alienation.

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REAL PARENTS don’t keep their children from the other parent “Parental Alienation is about parents who place their own selfish needs above those of their defenseless children and in doing so, they deny them their right to love and be loved by both parents.” ~ Dr. Reena Sommer

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#169, Real Parents

I Don’t Want to Listen

 

This artist depicts divorce within the framework of parental conflict.  From the child’s perspective they do not want to listen.  

The artist comments: “Divorces, divorces everywhere.”

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Deviant Art, I don’t want to listen, by Kaiwerewolf.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/I-don-t-want-to-listen-252171468

#167, I Don’t Want to Listen

Most Parents Do Not Realize…

 

Divorce is a tumultuous event for everyone in the family.  An adult child of divorce sends a message to parents on the impact of divorce on the child.   

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Most parents don’t realize what they put their children through when they get a divorce and separate. They don’t realize how much it troubles a young child’s mind, especially because as a result of the divorce, parents are usually too involved with themselves to realize anything’s wrong with their children. They become self-absorbed and lose track of what’s really important, seeking to find another mate as fast as possible, no matter whether it be for personal happiness or believing the child needs a replacement parent. Most parents, at least from what I’ve heard and experienced, don’t notice that their child is troubled and needs comfort. The child feels abandoned, becomes hateful, guilty, depressed, any plethora of emotions could result and in seeking attention, the child lashes out, often times in ways that ultimately hurts their self.

People shouldn’t marry unless their positive of their chosen partner. They especially shouldn’t have children unless they’re confident about the person they’re with and the life they are making. There is enough suffering in the world that such a simple thing should be easy enough to avoid. It’s a matter of faith and trust in one’s significant other and their life together. Children shouldn’t be made to suffer because of parents’ mistakes. Parents, if at any point they feel like their relationship is failing, they should do everything in their power to work it out before putting their children through such an ordeal. When two people have a child, that child should always come first.

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#166, Most Parents Do Not Realize