A rather scary depiction of divorce. Large piercing eyes. Numerous pieces of legal documents. The child running away…..
Children experience problems with their parents’ legal issues.
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Deviant Art, Trouble by mirelai.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Trouble-115612595
# 187, Trouble
This artist depicts how divorce changes things for the child! The changes for the child of divorced parents can be difficult to tolerate. The abandoned feeling, the fear and anger that only a child of divorce can understand are ever present in this artwork.
Note: The letter stating I Love My Family, with the word family crossed out.
The family and trees drawn sideways indicating everything is different, not what she experienced prior to the divorce.
The hands reaching up toward her.
The small red heart that is partially faded.
The sun rays are missing on the side of the child indicating the darkness she may be experiencing since the divorce.
This is a very realistic and revealing portrayal of divorce from the child’s perspective!
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Deviant Art, Something Yearned For, by haruyuuma.
Link to artwork: http://haruyuuma.deviantart.com/art/Something-Yearned-For-393133624
#186 . Something Yearned For
The children of DIVORCE! A very revealing photo:
Big eyes with dark and a steady stream of tears.
The forlorn look on this young ladies face.
The black and white photo with a red rose.
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Deviant Art, Fragile Agony by nannn.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Fragile-Agony-117083382
#185, Fragile Agony
No child should have to see their parents fight.
Artist shares a descriptive poem about divorce:
Momma please stop cryin, I can’t stand the sound
Your pain is painful and its tearin’ me down
I hear glasses breakin as I sit up in my bed
I told dad you didn’t mean those nasty things you
said
You fight about money, bout me and my brother
And this I come home to, this is my shelter
It ain’t easy growin up in World War III
Never knowin what love could be, you’ll see
I don’t want love to destroy me like it has done
my family
Can we work it out? Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better, Mommy I’ll do anything
Can we work it out? Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better, Daddy please don’t
leave
Daddy please stop yellin, I can’t stand the sound
Make mama stop cryin, cuz I need you around
My mama she loves you, no matter what she says
its true
I know that she hurts you, but remember I love
you, too
I ran away today, ran from the noise, ran away
Don’t wanna go back to that place, but don’t have
no choice, no way
It ain’t easy growin up in World War III
Never knowin what love could be, well I’ve seen
I don’t want love to destroy me like it did my
family
Can we work it out? Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better, Mommy I’ll do anything
Can we work it out? Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better, Daddy please don’t
leave
In our family portrait, we look pretty happy
Let’s play pretend, let’s act like it comes
naturally
I don’t wanna have to split the holidays
I don’t want two addresses
I don’t want a step-brother anyways
And I don’t want my mom to have to change her
last name
In our family portrait we look pretty happy
We look pretty normal, let’s go back to that
In our family portrait we look pretty happy
Let’s play pretend, act like it goes naturally
“Family Portrait” by P!nk
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.Deviant Art, Please Stop Yelling by EranthyaeNoire.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/SP-Please-Stop-Yelling-115179009
# 183, Please Stop Yelling
The artists depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective.
Artists’ commentary:
The effects on a child of divorce.
The thread that tapes it back together.
The blinding and deafening of screams.
Shadows on the wall.
A crack in their strife.
All intertwined in a life.
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Devint Art, Mending the Pieces by kyrisnowpaw.
Link to artwork: Mending The Pieces by kyrisnowpaw on DeviantArt
# 182, Mending the Pieces
A sad picture of divorce.
Artists commentary: she’s listening to her parents fight about how they’re only staying together for her sake.
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Deviant Art, It’s All For Her by happymelon.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Tape-183468848
# 181, It’s All For Her
Artistic interpretation of the most innocent victims in divorce.
Artist comments: “The child is always a victim in a divorce. Sad to see this happening everywhere in our modern day society.”
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Deviant Art, Broken hearted-original iPad finger painting by chaseroflight.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Broken-hearted-original-iPad-finger-painting-432176964
# 180, Broken Hearted
Excellent question! We now know the devastation that divorce causes in a child’s life. Research is consistent: children of divorce are more likely to experience difficulty in school, have problems in social relationships, experience mental health problems and are more likely to engage in delinquent behaviors.
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My parents have stayed married but I saw marriages of my friends’ parents collapsing all around when I was in high school. I saw what it did to my friends. It is so depressing to have seen the children of those divorces go on to their own divorces and stepfamilies. I keep thinking, “The parents of the ’80s didn’t really think they were hurting their children so much. But my generation KNOWS what divorce does to children; how can we do that to our own children!”
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Comment to Turned Out All Right?, by JH, July 29, 2013.
Link to article: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
#179, What Divorce Does
This wife and mother talk about her parent’s divorce, the blessing, and the difficulty of divorce. Parents staying together until the children are older is sometimes an option. She reveals the goodness of God and how God is the foundation for the success of her marriage. (Comments to Turned Out All Right? (post #177, posted June 16, 2015)
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My parents divorced when I was a freshman in college. I remember my Dad saying to me that he was going to leave when my younger brother went to college. He waited to leave until we were older. I am sad that my parents marriage did not last, but in looking back, I am glad that they stayed together for as long as they did, and especially when we were younger.
I have now been blessed to be married for 21 years. I am grateful to God for my husband, and I know that we are still married because of having God and Jesus in our lives. Marriage is a blessing, but at times is also difficult. I don’t know how marriages that do not have God as a foundation make it.
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Comment to Turned Out All Right?, by JH, July 29, 2013.
Link to article: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
#178, God’s Goodness
One mother shares the reality of divorce for her and her family.
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My mom denies how painful the divorce was for my brothers and I. Once we grew up, she openly mocked the statistics demonstrating poorer outcomes for children whose parents divorced, because we didn’t suffer any of the social pathologies to which we were statistically more susceptible:
Now that we’ve all “turned out all right,” my mom continues to mock the above statistics, but what she cannot detect because it cannot be measured is the emotional pain, the psychological upheaval, and the gap in our upbringing and personal development due to the absence of our father.
There is one other “social pathology” to which children of divorce are more susceptible—one that my mom conveniently ignores: it is much more likely that our own marriages will end in divorce.
Mine already has. I’m in an interesting cohort: the first generation of kids affected by the new “no-fault” divorce laws. (My parents divorced in 1975, when I was 9). My children are in another interesting cohort: the kids of the kids of the first no-fault divorces.
I have looked at divorce “from both sides now,” and no matter how you look at it, it stinks. As I was descending the steps of the courthouse after my divorce (I was the respondent, my husband was the petitioner), my attorney, wet-behind-the-ears and unwise, said, “Congratulations. He’s out of your life forever.” I just shook my head and said to him, “If only that were true.” Earlier in the divorce proceedings, an older attorney at the firm had spoken more wisely: “In a way, divorce is almost worse than death, because the relationship ends badly and then you still have to deal with the person as an adversary, at least until all the children grow up. And even then, sometimes the conflict doesn’t end.”
That is my experience exactly. People get divorced because they think it will solve all their problems. In reality, all it does is exchange one terrible set of problems for a completely different but equally terrible set of problems. What a sad inheritance to pass on to one’s children. I’m 46 years old, my kids are 21, 20, and 16, and we’re all still feeling it.
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Shared on marriage-ecosystem.org by CTW.
Link to this story: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
# 177, Turned Out All Right?
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