Child Support Lawyers

 

A common theme.  

Parental conflict creates a sense of insecurity in the child.  Research shows that parental conflict can lead to a higher likelihood that the child will have emotional issues, do poorly in school and have social and relationship issues. Remember, parent’s are the child’s first and most important teachers.  A child learns about relationships from watching their parents.

Deviant art child_support_lawyers_by_whiteandass-d8yxthv

 

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Deviant Art, by whiteandass.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/browse/all/?section=&global=1&q=child+support+lawyers

#207, Child Support Lawyers

Unwanted

 

Parent to parent. This mother gives advice to anyone thinking about divorce. She expresses emotional turmoil knowing her daughter will  also experience  the same anxiety this mom experienced during childhood due to parental conflict. This mom acknowledges the difficulty in visiting four sets of grandparents at the holidays. And, grief in knowing her daughter will live in a world of unknowns. Sadly, there is a long list of divorces among her immediate and extended family. Some parents know how the logistics of divorce will impact their child.  Yet, as the parent not wanting the divorce, she is limited. There seems to be nothing she can do to change anything…except advise parents considering divorce.  Thank you for helping, mom!

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To Anyone thinking about divorce,

The divorce was not my idea!

I hate that my daughter will grow up as I did.  Four sets of grandparents to visit at the holidays.  Anxiety at school events because her parents do not get along.

My parents are divorced.  My  brothers and sister are divorced.  Several aunts and uncles are divorced. This is what my daughter has-a family of divorces.

I regret that my daughter has to live in a world of unknowns.

I wish there was something I could do to make this better for my baby.

To all parents out there thinking about divorce.  Don’t do it!

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#206, Unwanted

 

Emotional Trauma

 

Do you wonder what kids really think about their parents’ divorce?Here are the answers to the question:  “how long does the emotional trauma of divorce last”.

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“You never get over it.”    Fifteen years after parents’  divorce

“I still haven’t.”    Twelve years after parents’  divorce

“It’s been four years but I’m still not over it.”

“It took me about seve years to really get over it.”

“I wasn’t upset at the time.  About a year later it hit and lasted for a year.”

“A few years of therapy.”

“I still haunt gotten over it.  I may never.”   Ten years after parents’  divorce

“Not long.  My dad was pretty mean.”

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Divorceandkids.com  

http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#HOW%20LONG%20DOES%20THE%20EMOTIONAL%20TRAUMA%20LAST?

#205, Emotional Trauma

 

Wants to Love Both Parents

 

A child loves both parents!!!!!

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!

LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!

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“Dad couldn’t really be as bad as Mom says he is.”   (9-year-old girl)

“I don’t care who I live with. I love you both. Please don’t make me choose–just tell me.”   (9-year-old boy)

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Divorceandkids.com

http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#FEELING%20TORN%20BETWEEN%20PARENTS

#204, Wants to Love Both Parents

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“Dad couldn’t really be as bad as Mom says he is.”

Bargaining

 

Divorce!!!!

This seven-year-old girl does not fully understand what is happening to her family.  She bargains to keep her parents together.

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“If I go live with grandma can you and dad stay married?”

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Divorceandkids.com http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#BARGAINING

#203, Bargaining

Chocolate Chip Cookies Will Bring Dad Back

 

Divorce is an adult concept!  

A child makes a heartfelt effort to put the family back together. Unfortunately, all the chocolate chip cookies in the world cannot stop some parents from divorcing.  

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“I’ll promise to make dad chocolate chip cookies every week. They’re his favorite. He’ll come back then.”

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Divorceandkids.com  http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#BARGAINING

#202, Chocolate Chip Cookies Will Bring Dad Back

 

 

Lonely

 

Divorce destroys a family!

This is how one adult child of divorce describes his life.

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“We’re half a family now–lonely.”

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Divorceandkids.com http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#LONELINESS

#201, Lonely

 

Adult Child: Sadness of Divorce

 

The remains of divorce!  

This adult child (age 20) of divorce shares the pain and emotional turmoil of divorce.

.“It has been four years since the divorce. I do not know what it is like to love or be loved unconditionally. I find it hopeless to even try for fear of this gut wrenching pain I knew/know from loving two of the most wonderful people in the world, mom and dad. I do not know if I will ever heal, when will this torment in my head and heart finally cease? I am 20 years old and I want nothing to do with marriage nor children. I am chained by the wounds of those that should have loved me the most, and I am confused”.

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Divorceandkids.com: http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#SADNESS

#200, Adult Child: Sadness of Divorce

Stabbed in the Heart

 

A HEARTBREAKING depiction of divorce!  This artwork indicates knives coming at the heart of the child from several sides. Two knives seem to represent mom and dad. Is the other knife an adult or family member? Or, is the knife the reality of trying to maintain in a less than friendly  family environment? Regardless of the specifics for the objects; the words are blatant and leave no room for interpretation. This child/adolescent created this picture when invited to describe divorce.  I wonder if the parents are aware of how their child feels?  

 

Child art Im surrounded by hate m

 

 

Divorceandkids.com:  http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#SADNESS

#199, Stabbed in the Heart

What Now?

 

A sad picture of divorce.

Mom is in the car going toward dad.  Or, is she just going to leave him standing in the street with his suitcase? Regardless, Dad is standing in the street with a startled look on his face. Maybe he is saying “Stop the car. I want to talk to you.  I want to see my child.” His arms are open indicating he is open to communicating. Will the mom stop? Will this dad have an opportunity to spend time with his child before mom leaves?

Is there significance to the symbol M (Mom?) at top and bottom of page.

 

Child Art mom in car suitcase m

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Divorceandkids.com

http://www.divorceandkids.com/Kids%20Quotes-Drawings/kids_quotes.htm#SADNESS

#198, What Now?