Burden of Divorce

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

An adult child of divorce shares how divorce disrupted her life. Sadly, this the reality of divorce for some children.

I confess that my parents’ divorce was a HUGE burden on me. Their trying to be happy met DIVORCE, aka, I would be unhappy! The breaking up of my family has been my life.

Since that day of DIVORCE, I have been like a young adult trying to take care of my parents WHO WERE SUPPOSE TO BE TAKING CARE OF ME!

#217, Burden of Divorce

Shared Parenting!

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in All Confessions, This is Shared Parenting

An inspirational story about two parents working together for the benefit of their child! This dad talks about why shared parenting is essential. Treasuring the small moments makes each and every-single-second together more special. This dad eloquently summarizes his experience with shared parenting.

Being a separated parent has allowed me to realize a lot of things. I don’t get my daughter everyday and I don’t get to do all the things normal dad’s get to do. Some might feel like I try to go over the top in some of the things I do or blow a bunch of hot air about being a dad.

But in reality, it’s just me learning one simple skill that many can’t master. Never take things for granted. I’ve learned every moment with my daughter is extra special. My time is limited. So, what might seem like one of those normal simple moments in life are extra super special moments in mine. Tonight while watching the fireworks, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. The world for me stopped spinning, doubts about my impending court battle disappeared, money wasn’t a concern, and everything I love dear was beside me and in my arms.

I suppose my point is that I hate being a separated parent. I want my beautiful little girl 100% of the time. But, being apart even if it was only 50% of the time has blessed me with the knowledge and ability to take every moment we are together more serious. And without sounding condescending…not a single second is taken for granted and every kiss or I Love You means 1000x more than what it would mean to a normal parent.

#216, Shared Parenting!

Torn and Confused

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in All Confessions, Artwork About Child, Impact on Child

Divorce from the child’s perspective. His parents are no longer together, a difficult concept for a young child. Artist comments that the yellow circle is the engagement ring that is thrown far, far away.

Deviant Art: Divorce by Johny-Kun.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-190363744

#215, Torn and Confused

Scrapbooking Parents’ Divorce

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

Artist shares “I have started compiling a record of major life events, similar to a scrapbook yet deeper and focused on the darker sides of life as well. The first major life-changing crisis to happen in my life was the divorce of my parents when I was 10 years old.”

Deviant Art: Divorce by Sunnenmoon

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-168409430

#214, Scrapbooking Parents’ Divorce

Divorce is Murder

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in All Confessions, Parental Experiences

The artists shares “the title is more rough. but it’s just the reality. i’ve seen way too many ppl get hurt and suffer their own or their parents’ divorce (and all that the junk it pulls along with it). heck, it’s become a ‘normal’ thing and you can see it everywhere, everyday. it’s wrong. you’d think ppl would realize that. and i don’t accept lame excuses. it’s cowardly, to think you can outrun your ‘problems’ like that. marriage is a promise, and you can’t back out on that. not with any legal stuff… i’m lucky to see my parents have a great marriage and still living together. however my friends aren’t. i really feel bad for any one having to go through all that. it’s become one of those secret fears you hope you never have to experience.”

Well said!

Deviant Art: Divorce is Murder by mi2x

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/divorce-is-murder-199212461

#213, Divorce is Murder

Total Despair

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in All Confessions, Artwork About Child, Impact on Child

A powerful depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective. This picture produces strong emotions. Artists’ comment: “A picture is worth a thousand words.”

Deviant Art: Divorce by wolfman007

Link to artwork: ww.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-72296385

#212, Total Despair

True

July 5, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

An adult child of divorce (parents divorced at age 8) shares her hope to have the happy days back, “when we were together happily.”

Deviant Art: Divorce by AkatsukiFan112

Link: http://akatsukifan112.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-215765801

#211, True

A Tender Moment

July 4, 2015 By Shared Parenting Confessional in All Confessions, This is Shared Parenting

Everyone likes to be acknowledged. In challenging situations, the positive words from a stranger can have special meaning. Here is a heart- warming story about a stranger offering emotional support and recognizing the efforts of a devoted parent. Indeed, this moment will have life-long implications for both individuals.

Tonight at a conference my eyes were drawn to a Father sitting next to us who had three young sons in his care. Probably ages 12, 9 & 7.
I watched on as I was amazed at the affection this Father showed for his sons.
No matter what they asked him, he gave each one his full attention. He kissed & hugged them continually.
I was wondering why I was so drawn to know his story. Where was Mum? Was he a single Dad? Did his wife pass away? I wasn’t sure but I’m eyes were transfixed on his love for them, and also the love the eldest son showed for his younger brothers.
When the conference finished I felt to tell him “he’s a great dad and that he needed to hear that”
As I walked past I leant down to his ear and said “I want you to know I was watching you with your boys, your a wonderful Father”
You should have seen his face light up. It was like he was shocked and then again so happy at that comment.
“Thank you” he said…
As I left the Auditorium I told my husband what I said and he also said he was going to say the same thing.
Ten minutes later my husband ran into him again where we were all picking up our kids.
He walked up to my husband and just asked how our night was.
I then approached their conversation and this man still intrigued me.
“What was his story we wondered?”
As my husband asked him where he was from and about the kids, he started to tell us how he brought his 5 kids (yes he also had 2 Girls) down from Brisbane for this 1 week conference. That he wanted more than anything to give his kids the joy of experiencing this and to have this time with them.
My ears starting to tune in, I was starting to feel I think I do have a single Dad here.
Then he drops the penny.
He hadn’t seen his kids in 3 months, they live further away from him, he’s in a messy court battle with his ex, he’s been told he’s not a good father and the story goes on.
I knew it. God works in mysterious ways doesn’t he. The amount of times I have had separated/divorced parents put in my path I can’t tell you.
I put my hand on his arm and said well I do understand as you are what I write and talk about.
With my eyes filling up I shared with him what I do (Voice4kids) and he was shocked. Even he said wow, this is a God moment.
I shared with him my heart (and yes I cried) as I told him what an amazing Dad I saw in him etc…
It was such a lovely moment that my husband and I were able to witness tonight.
I told him I feel to bless him with my 2 Books and he can’t wait to receive them.
*THESE ARE MOMENTS I LIVE FOR.
*THESE ARE THE MOMENTS I PRAY FOR.
*THIS IS WHY I DO WHAT I DO.