Personal Experience

 

One parent shares the emotional aspect of divorce.  She expresses concern about dating and replacing a parent with a new partner.  This parent acknowledges the pain of divorce through personal experience with her parents divorce and her need for comfort during the difficult time.  

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Most parents don’t realize what their children go through when their parents decided to divorce.  They have no idea how much turmoil this causes.  Parents are too involved in themselves to pay attention to their children and to see how their children really are doing.  Parents become self-absorbed and lose sight of the important things.  Looking for a new partner, trying to find happiness and thinking the child is better off with a ‘new parent’.

From personal experience, I know what children feel like when their parents divorce.  I know that me and my siblings needed comfort.  We felt abandoned, became troubled and hateful people.  We needed comfort.  Instead we did things to get their attention.  Got in trouble at school and with the neighbors kids.

Please do not marry unless you are positive of your new partner.  For goodness sake-do not have children unless you are sure of who you are with.  Parents should do everything to make the marriage work.  Do what you can before putting your children through the ordeal of divorce.  Bottom line is that once you have children they should always come first.

I know, my parents divorced when I was young.  I will not put my children through what my parents did.

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228, Personal Experience

Can We Be A Family?

 

A collection of heartbreak in this artwork.  

The broken heart, the child crying and the heart wrenching questions.  Sadly, children are the innocent victims of divorce.  

Deviant art can we work it out dl family_portrait_by_nekoyasu-d41y15o

 

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Deviant Art, Family Portrait by FriendlyPoe.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Family-portrait-245132124

#226, Can We Be A Family

Broken Family…..

 

Artists’ portrayal and comments on divorce: “This is one thing that makes me think Love doesnt exist…Broken Families!
I hate it when the couple fights for nothing….its like, first it was just a small thing and one of them will make the situation bigger…and after that they’ll plan a divorce! Cmon! Besides thinking about themselves….they must also think about they’re kids’ future! Its possible that they’re kids are also gonna experience broken marriage when they grow up…they’re future may reflect from the past!”

Deviant art Broken family .. m

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Deviant Art, Broken Family….by tazusajoe37.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Broken-family-174739451

#225, Broken Family…..

Happy Birthday

 

A heartwarming birthday celebration for the birthday girl.  Parents are working together to make the birthday celebration special. How amazing for this young girl to celebrate her day with the important people in her life!  Parents are role modeling for all of the children present by demonstrating respect for others. In Shared Parenting EVERYONE WINS!!!!

My daughter had her 6th birthday party today. Her father and I have been apart since I was 5 months pregnant with her. She wanted her father, his new partner and her kids at her party. We invited them and they all came. It was a wonderful day and my daughter got to have both her parents at her birthday party for the first time in her life. It’s been a long hard road but its so worth it!

This is putting kids first!!

Love to see co-parenting success stories!! Your children will be much happier and thrive when you work together for their TRUE best interest and their wants and needs!

Kuddo’s to Hazel and her ex for working together for their daughter!

Thanks for sharing!!
~TPKF Team

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Time to Put Kids First:  https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst?fref=ts

# 224, Happy Birthday

 

Grow -up!

 

This mother gives effective advice to other mothers.  

The best statement is “Do what is right for your kids.”

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!

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Anonymous

My advice to the mothers that are keeping their children from their fathers:  Grow up!

Just because you can does not mean that you should.  In time, your children will resent you for keeping them from their father.  They  will figure out what this is doing to them.   I did not keep my kids from their father, even when he did not pay child support.  Fathers have a right to see their kids, no matter what you think of them. Be the grown up and do the right thing.  Do what is right for your kids.  To those of you who the father wants to see their kid DO NOT PUSH HIM AWAY.  Your child needs their dad.

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#223, Advice

Divorce Hurts Everyone

 

This artist shares her thoughts on divorce.

“I hate divorce. I hate it with a passion. My parents divorced when I was only 3 and a half, so I can hardly remember anything about it, but it’s most definitely affected me in the long run. Everyone has their reasons and their stories for getting a divorce, and sometimes the reasons seem logical. But honestly, what good is divorce if it makes everyone unhappy? There is nothing GOOD about divorce, guys. There’s a good reason God hates it so much. And yet, just like every other sin, it’s everywhere. Don’t date unless you plan to marry that person and NOT DIVORCE THEM. EVER.”

Love is stupid d divorce_hurts_everyone_by_lemonsandlemonade7-d90efc2

 

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Deviant Art, Divorce Hurts Everyone by lemonsandlemonade7.

Link: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-Hurts-Everyone-544868642

#222, Divorce Hurts Everyone

A Father’s Heartache

 

One father shares the heartache of not seeing his son in 5 years!  The tragedy of PAS is that the years are gone.  The time for father-son talks, to share events at school, and sport activities are done.  There is no way to capture the time back.  NO ONE wins with PAS!  A short term “win” will eventually be discovered.  The truth will come out; however, until that point, the years are gone. 

 

Richie

The length of time, the separation, not hearing his voice, not knowing where he lives, does he think of me at all, if so than what does he think of me…… the list goes on……..

5 years is a long time and counting.

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The Fathers Rights Movement/2-16-15

#221, A Father’s Heartache 

All is Well

 

A touching pic.  The words capture the mind of the parent who has struggled with issues of PAS.  Most parents want to the ability to parent their child.  As this pic shows, “All is well when all ends well!”

So dad tell me m

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No Winners in Divorce

 

Here is the reality of divorce!  An adult child shares the real tragedy of divorce and explains how there are no winners in divorce.

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For as long as I can remember my goal in life was to find a good husband and have kids and a happy family. I used to tell people as long as I had a happy family, I’d live anywhere even in a tent. It’s never been about money, or career, or pretty, materialistic things. And most children of divorce that I know feel exactly the same. We were broken by the loss of a true family, and no money can ever fill that void. For the child, divorce is an endless competition to please both parents.  But the truth, is that no one ever really wins in divorce.

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#218, No Winners in Divorce