Category Archives: All Confessions

Think First

August 15, 2015 By in All Confessions

Advice to someone considering marriage. While the advice is simple, reasons for divorce are usually anything but simple.  Nonetheless, this individual conveys the message that marriage is a serious endeavor in life. To think before marrying someone and once married…stay married.  Simple answers for tough questions.  

Here is my advice on divorce:  just think twice or more before going in to marriage because once you find your self in an unhappy marriage,  the problem of divorce creates a sense of failure.  Take time before going into a marriage.  Too much is at stake.  Why risk your child’s happiness.  Once married, stay married.  No matter what.

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#285, Think First

The Family Portrait that Never Was

August 15, 2015 By in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

A common theme of divorce is wanting to be a family again.  This artist illustrates this point beautifully in her artwork.  The artists comments: “The reason as to why I picked the title, “The Family Portrait that never was” is that, my parents have been divorced for 17 years and havent had a family picture together since I was 5 or 6 years old (honestly I cringe at the title grammar. Is there a better way to word it?).

Anyway, this is my 27th birthday present to myself. An appreciation of my family/parents for what/who they are, and loving them anyway…even if they are not tied by marriage via paper.”  How sad.  Sometimes, accepting a parents divorce is a difficult task to master.  Perhaps creating this family portrait will help her with her parents divorce from many years ago.

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Deviant Art.  The Family Portrait that Never was by Delight046

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Family-Portrait-that-Never-Was-501716151

#284,   The Family Portrait that Never Was

Game Changer

August 15, 2015 By in All Confessions, Family Court

 

This parent shares the heartache of her divorce.  She recognizes her daughter has been impacted emotionally. Sometimes, in custody matters, the needs of the child may need extra attention.   For this family, the sense of security of their daughter is threatened. The divorce has changed the outcome of what may have been for their daughter.

Divorce is a game changer.  After battling in family court for over 12 years  I can say that this has changed my daughter.  There is a big wall around her.  She is guarded and has never returned to the innocent, happy go-lucky child she was before the divorce. Everyday I struggle to understand her.  I know that she struggles each day as well.  Trying to make sense of what happened to her happy family and her sense of safety.

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#283, Game Changer

Which Way?

August 15, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child, Impact on Child

 

At the proverbial cross roads in life!  Which way should I go?  Mommy or daddy?  Mommy or daddy?  This black and white photo is upstaged by the adorable, fluffy bear.  Is this something that she treasures?  An object she can turn to when confused, lonely or sad?  Hopefully, her parents are able to comfort her and fulfill her emotional needs.  Divorce can be a confusing time for the child!

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# 282, Which way?

My Family

August 15, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

Artist comments: “My mom divorced of my dad when I was 4 years old, then takes care of me and my brother Max alone today. My mom works at a company secretary to earn money for my house and back very late dinner time, my brother takes care of me most of the day so I’m not alone in the house why he has 13 years.”

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Deviant Art. Homework: my family by AskLiza1

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Homwork-my-family-482114076

#281, My Family

My Imaginary Family

August 15, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

Artist adds a sibling for company!  She shares who the imaginary family members are and states: ” …And at the bottom, my twin brother and me! o/But…my actual family is like…Me and mom…because pets are just pets and my dad don’t live in this city anymore (yep my parents divorced looong time ago~)
IM A FOREVER ALONE //sobsob” 

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Deviant Art.  This is my 9imaginay) (sic) family! by Maggie-and-Day.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/This-is-my-imaginay-family-346918282

#280, My Imaginary Family

Leaping Sheep

August 13, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

A creative expression of divorce from one artist.  This seems to be a collage of emotions showing many unique themes.  

The girl peering out from behind a wall.   She has one eye.  Does this represent something she has seen and does not want to see again?  Or does this mean that no one is really looking at her? 

There is the year 09?  A year of significance for her? The year her parents’ divorced?’

The words ‘ok’ so may signify the question of what will happen next?

The black creature wearing a cowboy hat is somewhat curious.  

The sheep leaping over the fence may indicate something with sleeping?  

The black V sideways indicates anxiety.

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Deviant Art, Child of Divorce by DoctorBalls.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/CHILD-OF-DIVORCE-30732023

#279, Leaping Sheep

My Parents are Divorced Too

August 13, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This artist explains the artwork is made “because my parents are divorced”. Two friends are talking about their parents’ divorce. Both individuals in this picture look very sad. The dog has a pink heart attached yet still looks lost and forlorn.  The words spoken in describing the divorce are quite revealing. A sad representation of divorce.   

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Deviant Art, Because my Parents are divorced by timmythetrainguy.

# 278 , My Parents are Divorced Too

Something is Missing

August 13, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

Stunning artwork! This child is surrounded by a very large inventory of toys! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone, in what appears to be, a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.

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Deviant Art.  Something is Missing by VivalaVida.

Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189

#277, Something is Missing

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STOP IT!

August 9, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child, Impact on Child

 

One picture is worth a thousand words!

Parental conflict is distressing, stressful and has long term consequences on the child!  A child in the midst of parental conflict is more likely to engage in drinking, drugging, sexing, and delinquent behaviors.  They are at an increased risk for social problems, academic problems and experience difficulty in relationships.  Simply, parental conflict brings  havoc in your child’s life.

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#274, STOP IT!!