The artist portrays the child as a lost and sad little boy drawing a heart in the sand. His pants have a hole, and the jacket is too large. Does the clothing mean the child is wearing adult size cloth and dealing with adult matters? An obvious assessment is how no one is paying attention to the care of this young one.
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#331, STOP Fighting
From the mouths of babes! “Dear Judge” letters written by children (typos and all). This is what the child is thinking and experiencing in their parents’ divorce. How sad, these children took the time to write a letter to the judge-hoping to make a difference in their life. Children are the innocent victims in divorce.
Do you see your child in any of these letters?
What do you do when you are a child and your heart is breaking? You go to the biggest, strongest people you know. You go to the people you have always counted on. You go to your parents. What do you do when your parents tell you there is nothing they can do to help you? What do you do when they say they don’t get to decide where you live or which one of them you get to kiss good night? Well, these children went straight to the Judge with their hopes, questions and fears. –
Dear Judge,
I sure hope you know what you are doing cause none of us do.
~ Jordan
Dear Judge,
ttell the home study estimatr that we do not realy live in the nice house she came to. we live at the crumy one. my step mothr made a del with the ladie next dor and we move there fore one day.
i want you to tell her to come to my real hous cause i hate my step mothr that is why. cause my stomich fels upset cause she tels my real mom i am not here when she cals.
my dad said she is a ok guy but she is not. he does not like her very much eathr. she play acts that she likes me but when dad is away she stops actin.
pleasee help me get to live with my mom and new sistr. thank you vere munch,
~ emile e.
Dear Judge,
This summer we went to our bio-moms house for 6 weeks of out of state visitation. It was cool during the first week or so. Mom started asking questions about our friends and school. We told her about what we thought about the dress code, curfew and separating us into different home rooms at school because they think twins need to learn independence from each other. She said we were out of control, disrespectful of authority and needed more discipline. We tried to explain that we get good grades, follow the rules even if we don’t like them and we never get in trouble.
The really bad arguments with her went on for almost two weeks. It wasn’t until Daddy called to see how things were going that mom finally calmed down. Daddy told mom that we were good girls, and get very good grades, act just like our friends and that we were normal. The next day she started to take more of her nerve pills and blame us for things we didn’t do. Mom bought us some strange bibles and we had to study them at the kitchen table from right after breakfast until lunch time every day. It didn’t go so well after that. Mom acts different from the other adults we know and doesn’t have any friends. We think that means that something is wrong.
When we I got home, we told Daddy about what had happened, how mom said that Daddy was brain washing us and that we were headed down the wrong path in life, which we are not. It is very uncomfortable being with her. The bible in this package is from mom. After you look at it please send it back. She will think I threw it away if I don’t have it the next time. Mom wants to see our bibles in our school pictures so she knows we are studying each day.
We don’t want to go back to her house anymore, but it is your court law for us to go. Can you have her come here for visitation?
~ Tracy and Lacy A.
Dear Judge,
plez com to my hows an talk to my parnts. we will all get drest nice an wrk hard to be good. i wont a hapie famble agn
~ yur frnd, Jamie L.
Dear Judge,
You are lucky to be the boss of the court. I don’t even get to be the boss of my bedroom because I have to share it with my big brother Lewis.
When he is meen to me I call him old stinke head so he can not here me.
If you can think of a way for me to be the boss of my room pleas send me a letter.
~ Sincerly,
Raymond O.
Don’t tell Lewis I sent this letter.
Dear Judge,
In a perfect world my parents wouldn’t be divorced. In a perfect world my parents could forget themselves and focus on me sometimes. In a perfect world I could share my happy thoughts with all the people I love. In a perfect world you wouldn’t have become the real parent in our family to make my parents act like adults. In a perfect world I could talk to my parents instead of writing to you.
In hopes for a perfect world,
~ Natasha N.
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http://www.divorcemag.com/articles/dear-judge-childrens-letters-to-the-judge#sthash.VukDIwDe.dpuf
#330, Dear Judge
This parent makes a succinct declaration of the impact of PA has had in their life! Many families are torn apart due to PA behavioral tendencies. And, too many children are forced to deal with emotional heartache and inner grief resulting from the behaviors of one parent. A child has a right to have a loving relationship with BOTH parents!
RESEARCH STUDY! Assesses parental financial/emotional experiences in family court.
Survey is for all parents who are or have been to court for child custody matters.
Link to survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FamilyCourtParentalFinancialExperience
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#329, The Devil
One parent’s rendition of how PAS really feels! A clear portrayal of how a parent feels when they are unable to participate in their child’s life. Empty inside. Heart is missing. Carrying a bag of emotional heartache perhaps? Interestingly, the missing part is heart shaped. Symbolizing that a parents LOVE never goes away!
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Fathers’ Rights Movement FB page: www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids/
#328, Lost Heart
A sympathetic message that will ring true for too many parents! Halloween is a fun holiday filled with wearing costumes, attending parties and trick or treating. Both parents should have the opportunity to share in the fun. Sadly, the person who misses out the most is the child!
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As shared by Truth Exposed FB page.
Link to FB:https://www.facebook.com/ParentsforProtection2012/?fref=photo
#327, Missed Event
Excellent advice! Research shows that a child exposed to parental conflict is MORE likely to experience social and academic problems. They are MORE likely to have physical health issues and mental healthy issues including depression and anxiety disorders. Shielding the child from parental conflict during the divorce is a WIN for everyone. Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!
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Rather than looking at the family after 10 years post divorce and asking “what is there”- let’s look at the family and see what is not there. Kids not in trouble. Kids not experiencing problems in school or hanging in out with the wrong crowds. This is all because their parents were united and had a friendly divorce.
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# 326, Rather Than…
This is what one artist remembers about childhood! The artwork shows how parents are fighting while the child watches from the balcony in their home. The child looks scared and is frowning, holding tight to the balustrade while observing the two people they love the most FIGHTING! A striking feature is the appearance of red marks, blood perhaps? Maybe the parents could fight in private. Will anyone notice this child?
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Deviant Art, Family Fight
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Chinelle-Family-Fight-153997945
#325, Family Fight
An adult child of divorce offers advice to parents divorcing. He shares the need for children to receive emotional support in a parental divorce. As a college student, he describes being put in the middle of arguments and adult matters. How confusing this must have been to him as a child. Adding to the confusion, his parents continue to put their now-adult child in the middle. Parental divorce is difficult enough and putting a child in the position of a tun-of-war game unfair and unnecessary.
My name is Mike. I am an 18 year old freshman in college at the University of Texas. I was born and raised in New York. My parents got divorced when I was nine years old and my mom won custody of me and my younger brother. I was scared of my mom and, as a result, she was able to use me as a pawn against my father. My parent’s divorce went on for another ten years and I was primary source of communication between the two for the entirety of it. Although they have been divorced for a few years now, they are still fighting to this day, which upsets me. They try to involve me but I repudiate by telling them both that I cannot be involved in their disagreements anymore because their issues have corrupted my childhood. For all you parents out there, please make sure you do not involve your children in such a terrible process. It is not their job to know when their father is late on child support or how terrible of a person their mother or father may be. I wish I had other children to speak to during my parents divorce. I am hoping this forum (Divorce Force) will connect children in need of support with people that can act as an consiglieres during their parents’ divorce process.
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Divorce Force
#323, How I Was Affected
Is this a perfect depiction of divorce for some children! A child is standing in the center. Each parent and a sibling are going in opposite directions. Is he trying to decide who do I choose? Mommy or daddy? Which sibling? Notably, everyone seems to be walking away. This child appears in the spotlight-yet, no one is paying attention. How many children are left to fend for themselves because everyone is dealing with their own emotions? A realistic, albeit, somber portrayal of divorce.
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Deviant Art, The Dance of Divorce
#322, The Dance of Divorce
How true! The best gift a parent can give their child is to have parents who love and respect each other. Perfectly said!
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Time to Put Kids First, TPKF
Link to TPKF Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst?fref=ts
#321, Best Security Blanket
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