A unique representation of divorce from the child’s eyes.  Children tend to feel a lot of pain and emotional conflict during divorce.   Some experience difficulty in adjusting to the separation and the other changes that have occurred.  This is a very sad face of divorce.  Eyes reflect mom and dad both leaving with a suitcase.  Abandonment and loneliness are  common themes of divorce for children.

#416, Impact on Child

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A graphic depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective. Both creatures show tears streaming down their faces.   The black background presents an added layer of drama. Note how each line of words is a different color further adding to the element of change that is occurring.

The artist shares this poem:

“The little girl wept,
The older one was silent,
Together they crept,
Away from their parents.

They thought it would stop,
That they’d finally be happy,
But it only got worse,
Everything was sappy.

The parents built a wall,
In the middle were the two,
They tried to climb but fell,
Into the lonely truth.

The older one was strong,
The younger one not so,
They didn’t know what was wrong,
They just silently watched the show.

One day it stopped,
And they were relieved,
But it soon ended,
And all were in grief.

They had a broken family,
Yet they forced themselves to be happy,
They were doing it for each other and for the other brother,
They were sad yet were a merry family.

The youngest of the three,
He didn’t understand,
He’d often ask much questions,
And now their all answered by me.”

#412, A Broken Family

Deviant Art, A Broken Family by LazuliteLily

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This artist describes the details of parental divorce for the character in this creative artwork.  A few details of the background story for this character: “When Rikuto was 10, his father divorced and left and he didn’t know why.  Without his dad around,  he felt helpless. He would cry himself to sleep in his room at night, asking himself why would his father leave if he loved both him and his mother so dearly? The week after, his dad filed a divorce and picked up passports, packed his bags and left to move to the U.S. with his band. Without even saying goodbye while Rikuto slept peacefully in his room.”

Sadly, emotions experienced during the divorce linger as indicated with this scenario.  Understandably, there are feelings of  abandonment for the parent who offered protection.  Divorce is difficult for everyone.

#410, Daddy, Please Come Back

Deviant Art: Daddy, please come back by ArtsystarwolveZ84

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Many children of divorce experience feelings of sadness and a profound sense of loss in reaction to their parents’ separation. This adolescent seems lost and forlorn.  Perhaps the person who took this picture can relate.  Artist describes this as “My parents are divorced which is why I took this.”

#403, Irony

Irony by JCHWang, Deviant Art

http://www.deviantart.com/art/irony-69219666

A child has the DNA of both parents.When one parent criticizes their co-parent, the child is  likely to interpret this as a put-down about them. When both parents are guilty of this behavior, it can create a great confusion along with a sense of unworthiness and low self-esteem. “Something’s wrong with me” becomes the child’s unconscious belief.

#402, Self-Image

by yuumei http://www.deviantart.com/art/Porcelain-Lies-582802844

Reality of Divorce

For some, divorce means the loss of a family. “Family” creates a sense of stability. Sometimes, divorce takes that away.  If one parent is in and out of their life this can create a sense of insecurity.  A sense of distrust forms that stays with the child.  What some want is to have family, parents who love them no matter what. A home with emotional support, no matter what.

#401, A Family, No Matter What

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