Category Archives: All Confessions

Divorce Through the Ages

January 7, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This talented artist presents parental divorce through her experiences as a child to young adulthood. She presents the heart wrenching moments in the milestone events of parental divorce. This poem is emotionally captivating and touches on the emotions and experiences of a child growing up in the midst of  parental divorce. 

The artist comments: “I realized for the first time today disappointment goes both ways in a parent/child relationship, and this is the product.”On that note, I don’t blame their divorce for my failures. I take full responsibility for those. But my parents still shaped who I am to an extent, and that’s what I’m trying to get across in the last line. (WHICH IS MY FAVORITE PART I LOVE THAT GLASS METAPHOR SO MUCH MORE FOR ME).”

Divorce

7 years old

My dad calls me and my siblings to the living room
Where he and my mom sit, smiles on their faces
That, looking back, I’m not sure were genuine anymoreMy dad asks
“Imagine we moved to an island with two tents;
One with your mom, and one with me. Which one would you like to live in?”I don’t know much but I know I don’t like this question
So I answer
“I would put the two tents together so we can all live in one big one!”
Because that’s the only answer that doesn’t leave my tongue
With a foul taste, like when I somehow got soap
On my RingpopMy parents smile,
but I know my imagination
isn’t welcome on this imaginary island9 years oldI’m way too young
to feel like the tape
you use to close that tattered box
that somehow became too small to hold your Christmas treeBut putting the tree back at work today
I realize that’s exactly how I felt11 years oldMy parents are fighting
(Again)
And I guess it must’ve been really bad
Because my mom storms up
And tells us whatever the reason they were fighting
(Or maybe just because of the fighting)
She was moving out Feburary of next yearI remember crying
But I don’t remember being sad
Or surprised14 years old

Twice as old as I was
When they first asked
And I still don’t like
Choosing tents

16 years old
I love her enough to call her “Ma”
But mom doesn’t like that so I stop
I wonder if she knew the love was
Still there

I wonder if it’s my fault
She left

19 years old

In a few years
It’ll be socially acceptable
For me to get married

And of course
If that happens
I hope it works out

Of course I hope
Life in general will work out
That I’ll make my parents proud

But if it doesn’t
When it doesn’t
I hope they remember
Who it was that taught me
Promises are made of glass

#487, Divorce Through the Ages
DeviantArt.comby kushamisaru at DeviantArt.com.
Artwork, Deviant Art, titled Enlightenment created by candiceshadow

Divorce Agreement

January 7, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

This talented artist presents a collection of scenes representing the divorce process. The black/white contrasted with crimson petals reveals the starkness of divorce. Tears of petals appearing as flower and heart shapes in the middle row sets the tone of sadness. The trail of petals in the last frame summarizes the essence of divorce in some families.

Note: The artist created this piece as a backstory for a character used in a storyline. She states her parents are not divorced and have a ‘happy relationship’.  She brilliantly captures the emotional aspect of divorce for a character further speaking to her creativity.  Excellent work!

 

 

#486, Divorce Agreement

Deviant Art, CutieEevee1

https://cutieeevee1.deviantart.com/art/Day-6-Hanahaki-With-Backstory-708305784

Dysfunctional

January 7, 2018 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This talented artist presents her perception of parental divorce. The fragmentation of the child adds to the drama of how divorce impacts the child. Facial features are mostly absent. Dad and child seem to be touching hands and mom looks like she is reaching out. The contrast of white against the background adds to the overall impact of the artwork. 

The artist provides a detailed description of her work: “Portraits aren’t always perfect. Families aren’t always perfect. In this piece titled Dysfunctional, it portrays the very real reality of a family that’s broken. The child is the focus of it and the reds and oranges are supposed to be a “fiery” vivid and attraction. The colors around the white paper are giving continuity and putting emphasizes on the child because children are the most affected in a divorce or dysfunctional family settings.”  Well said artist.

#485  Dysfunctional

Deviant Art,amber61pop 

https://amber61pop.deviantart.com/art/Dysfuntional-709200085

 

Broken Child

December 31, 2017 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This artist captures the process of brainwashing. The child is broken to the heart. There is a feeling of mystery in how the child appears with the legs  showing from behind. Each parent is spouting their words of ‘truth’ and appears to be a volatile conversation. Seemingly, neither parent is demonstrating concern for the child. Do these parents realize how harmful their actions are? Will either parent put their anger aside and tend to the needs of their child? 

 

#484, Broken Child

Deviant Art, TheaSinensis

Breaking Family

November 5, 2017 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

A graphic depiction of parental conflict for one person. First section shows a happy family with a cheerful yellow  background.  Second section shows two parents fighting. Both parents appear mad, emphasized by the red background and black sharp edging above them. Three little ones are huddled together in the lower corner. Each with one single tear running down there cheek. Third section shows everyone is separate and turned away from each other. Both parents appear mad. Each child seems sad. The black background indicates gloom. How sad for this young artist. 

Section 1: “We were once a happy family. But the, there were fights, hate, sorrow and more if continued. ”

Section 2: “The fights continue til we all are broken and our family wasn’t a family anymore. “

Section 3: “Me and my two sisters suffered from their fights. Mom and dad both broken because neither would listen or understand.”

Deviant Art, breaking family by CandiceShadow

# 485, Breaking Family

Grabbing Hands

October 30, 2017 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

Appropriate for Halloween. A creepy portrayal of divorce.  Four, very large hands are trying to grab this child. Pointy nails seem to be clawing their way at her. This child seems very sad, burying her head and hiding her face as if to avoid the entire matter. One hand seems to be able to take her in a swift grab. Are these her parents trying to clutch their child? Seemingly, not one hand is kind, loving or making an effort to comfort her.  No one seems interested in how she is feeling or that her needs and wants are not dignified. 

Even more spooky is the number of parents who will miss out on this holiday of candy, costumes and fun.

#484, Grabbing Hands

 

 

No Treats This Year

October 30, 2017 By in All Confessions, Parental Experiences

 

A sympathetic message that will ring true for too many parents. Halloween is a fun holiday filled with wearing costumes, attending parties and trick or treating.  A child should have the opportunity to see both parents on this day. Both parents should have the opportunity to share in the fun.  Sadly, the person who misses out the most is the child! 

#484, Another Missed Holiday

Sad Flowers

October 29, 2017 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

Art is a creative outlet in sharing your inner most feelings and thoughts. This child shares sadness when asked to draw ‘how they feel about divorce.’ Both flowers are crying with flowing, large blue tears. Is this a  parent and child? Or, a child with an older sibling?  The large flower has leaves turned downward indicating sadness(?). Neither flower is smiling. Each has a cloud over them.  Are the parents aware of how this young artist is experiencing their divorce? 

#482, Sad Flowers

Bravery

October 29, 2017 By in All Confessions

 

Are you a parent fighting the same demons everyday? Do you feel the battle is endless? Family court issues may be emotionally exhausting and financially draining. Each day, parents are fighting for their children and are willing to do what is needed. Some days may be worse than others.  There is no need to suffer in silence.  Know that you are a BRAVE parent and you are not alone in your struggle.

 

As shared on Anxiety and Depression Support Group FB.

# 481, Bravery

PTSD

October 10, 2017 By in All Confessions, PTSD

 

 

PTSD is a mental health issues. Individuals with PTSD may continue to be anxious and depressed for long periods of time following the event. This is a serious and potentially debilitating condition that requires treatment. Please seek help when experiencing anxiety or depression.

#479, PTSD Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse, https://www.facebook.com/Narcissistic-and-Emotional-Abuse-308444339340514/