The utter travesty of the Family Court System lives on deep into the night …..

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Do judges know what it is like to cry yourself to sleep every night because your child is not there, do they know what is like to wake up every morning in tears cause your child is not there, do they know what it’s like to fall into tears when flipping through a channel and seeing his favorite show on, do they know what it’s like sitting alone and the only sensation you can feel is the smell and hear the innocent voice of your child that was unconstitutionaly taken away by a corrupt system and a lying mother? My answer and best guess is NO!

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#143, Do the Judges Know?

When the post “I Am A Father” was shared on FB page “Supporters of South Dakota Shared Parenting” in May 2015,  several supporters responded. 

These are deserving of attention and are shared on Shared Parenting Confessional as a separate post.

COMMENT: Just because you divorce the wife you don’t divorce the children.

COMMENT: What leads up to divorce and the divorce hurts the children beyond measure with a deep and painful wound, even in the best of divorce circumstances.

COMMENT: Back in the day, when couples had problems, the community came to help the family work out their problems. Now that the government and courts are involved all they want is to separate the family, have one parent be broke from not having any income because they stay at home with the kids while the other parent goes broke paying for another place to live, transportation cost for two houses. And let’s not forget all of the lawyers fees and court fees so in the end of all of the bs the child has been put through so much that we think that the child will grow to be a upstanding citizen? Reality check, we are looking to TV to raise our kids and the web to teach them. When all we have to do is be there for our brothers and sisters to listen and help families, not the lawyers and social workers.

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Response comments to post “I Am A Father” shared in previous post.

Link to FB page Supporters for Shared Parenting South Dakota:

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Supporters-of-South-Dakota-Shared-Parenting/179297318844749?fref=ts

#140, I Am A Father, comments.

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In the world of divorce, some fathers are categorized in a negative fashion.  This father shares his thoughts on the relationship with his daughter before and after her birth.  Fatherly pride is ever present.   The one thing that stands out is that this daddy loves his baby! 

This fathers experience with the family court system is, sadly, not atypical.  

Importantly, at the end of the post there are quotes from several professionals that seem to place emphasis on the injustice of the court system that often fails to protect the very beings they are designed to protect-THE FAMILY UNIT and THE CHILD!

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I am a father.

Not a deadbeat, not a coward, not a man that runs away from being a father, or a deserter of my own flesh and blood. Not a sperm donor or a court appointed ATM, but a Father in the purest form of the word. And while choosy “Moms choose Jif”, I sit, at 3:05 am holding the hot hands of a sick 7 year old princess. But that’s my job.

Because I am a father.

I would speak to my daughter while she was in utero. She would respond with little kicks and from the womb.. we interacted, and hadn’t even seen each other yet. When you immediately accept that, even before your child takes its first breath, you are already a Father you immediately begin to bond with your child.

The Family Law court system as a whole, and it’s Judges destroy the lives of children and in turn entire families by violating a Father’s right to Due process and equal protection under the law. But we’ve known that for decades. Anyone that thinks or believes that there is Due process for fathers in the Family Law Court system should be placed in a padded room and heavily sedated.

Why is it ok for Fathers to miss their children? Why is it ok for a Father to be sick and wrapped in worry? Why is it permissible for “Non Custodial” parents to start legal proceedings at an immediate disadvantage? Why is there no legislation in place to safeguard Fathers that are being swept in amid the men that make us all look bad?

We are judged before the first hearing.

It physically hurts on days I don’t have my daughter with me. “Depression hurts” as the commercial for anti-depressants says right? Ask yourself, what parent wouldn’t be stressed sleepless concerned about their child? Therefore forcing time away from a parent and child would reasonably cause a great deal of stress and worry.. to truly say the least.

But the Family Law Court its Judges, are far from reasonable.

Now, just imagine that you’re sitting at your desk at work, and two armed Sheriffs approach the receptionist’s desk, then your intercom buzzes, and you are then summoned to the front desk. The Sheriff asks you for your name, And then politely informs you that you have been served with child support papers…and that’s just the beginning.

Keep in mind that you are the same father that went through the entire pregnancy, CPR classes, ultrasounds, the Birth ya know, Dad stuff. For the record, ( a sidebar really, ) Any man that has stood side by side, each day and night for nine months with a hormonal, morning noon and night vomiting, habitual mood swinger knows that Fathers don’t exactly have it easy during a nine month pregnancy either. whether you are an amazing Father, or a deadbeat looser, Family Law Court will filter your life through Hell all the same.

I am a Father.

With no criminal record, never been arrested, no history of violence, domestic or other.. At what point did I ask to be Non-Custodial. There is nothing “Non-Custodial” about me.

I have never needed a court order to care for my Daughter.

Since when have I not been a Father?

I clinch my fist and grit my teeth while, the very system set in place to protect our families Not only fatally fails, but spits in my face and violates my rights.

Quotes:

“There is no system ever devised by mankind that is guaranteed to rip husband and wife or father, mother and child apart so bitterly than our present Family Court System.”

-Judge Brian Lindsay Retired Supreme Court Judge, New York, New York

What Social Services is good at is removing “Power” from people.

When this is accomplished, then there go choices.                 -Mr. Charles Johnson

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Shared on Supporters of South Dakota Shared Parenting on April 20, 2014.

Link to FB page for Supporters of South Dakota Shared Parenting:

https://www.facebook.com/pages/Supporters-of-South-Dakota-Shared-Parenting/179297318844749?fref=ts

#139, I Am A Father