The artists depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective.
Artists’ commentary:
The effects on a child of divorce.
The thread that tapes it back together.
The blinding and deafening of screams.
Shadows on the wall.
A crack in their strife.
All intertwined in a life.
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Devint Art, Mending the Pieces by kyrisnowpaw.
Link to artwork: Mending The Pieces by kyrisnowpaw on DeviantArt
# 182, Mending the Pieces
A sad picture of divorce.
Artists commentary: she’s listening to her parents fight about how they’re only staying together for her sake.
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Deviant Art, It’s All For Her by happymelon.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Tape-183468848
# 181, It’s All For Her
Artistic interpretation of the most innocent victims in divorce.
Artist comments: “The child is always a victim in a divorce. Sad to see this happening everywhere in our modern day society.”
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Deviant Art, Broken hearted-original iPad finger painting by chaseroflight.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Broken-hearted-original-iPad-finger-painting-432176964
# 180, Broken Hearted
Excellent question! We now know the devastation that divorce causes in a child’s life. Research is consistent: children of divorce are more likely to experience difficulty in school, have problems in social relationships, experience mental health problems and are more likely to engage in delinquent behaviors.
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My parents have stayed married but I saw marriages of my friends’ parents collapsing all around when I was in high school. I saw what it did to my friends. It is so depressing to have seen the children of those divorces go on to their own divorces and stepfamilies. I keep thinking, “The parents of the ’80s didn’t really think they were hurting their children so much. But my generation KNOWS what divorce does to children; how can we do that to our own children!”
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Comment to Turned Out All Right?, by JH, July 29, 2013.
Link to article: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
#179, What Divorce Does
This wife and mother talk about her parent’s divorce, the blessing, and the difficulty of divorce. Parents staying together until the children are older is sometimes an option. She reveals the goodness of God and how God is the foundation for the success of her marriage. (Comments to Turned Out All Right? (post #177, posted June 16, 2015)
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My parents divorced when I was a freshman in college. I remember my Dad saying to me that he was going to leave when my younger brother went to college. He waited to leave until we were older. I am sad that my parents marriage did not last, but in looking back, I am glad that they stayed together for as long as they did, and especially when we were younger.
I have now been blessed to be married for 21 years. I am grateful to God for my husband, and I know that we are still married because of having God and Jesus in our lives. Marriage is a blessing, but at times is also difficult. I don’t know how marriages that do not have God as a foundation make it.
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Comment to Turned Out All Right?, by JH, July 29, 2013.
Link to article: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
#178, God’s Goodness
One mother shares the reality of divorce for her and her family.
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My mom denies how painful the divorce was for my brothers and I. Once we grew up, she openly mocked the statistics demonstrating poorer outcomes for children whose parents divorced, because we didn’t suffer any of the social pathologies to which we were statistically more susceptible:
Now that we’ve all “turned out all right,” my mom continues to mock the above statistics, but what she cannot detect because it cannot be measured is the emotional pain, the psychological upheaval, and the gap in our upbringing and personal development due to the absence of our father.
There is one other “social pathology” to which children of divorce are more susceptible—one that my mom conveniently ignores: it is much more likely that our own marriages will end in divorce.
Mine already has. I’m in an interesting cohort: the first generation of kids affected by the new “no-fault” divorce laws. (My parents divorced in 1975, when I was 9). My children are in another interesting cohort: the kids of the kids of the first no-fault divorces.
I have looked at divorce “from both sides now,” and no matter how you look at it, it stinks. As I was descending the steps of the courthouse after my divorce (I was the respondent, my husband was the petitioner), my attorney, wet-behind-the-ears and unwise, said, “Congratulations. He’s out of your life forever.” I just shook my head and said to him, “If only that were true.” Earlier in the divorce proceedings, an older attorney at the firm had spoken more wisely: “In a way, divorce is almost worse than death, because the relationship ends badly and then you still have to deal with the person as an adversary, at least until all the children grow up. And even then, sometimes the conflict doesn’t end.”
That is my experience exactly. People get divorced because they think it will solve all their problems. In reality, all it does is exchange one terrible set of problems for a completely different but equally terrible set of problems. What a sad inheritance to pass on to one’s children. I’m 46 years old, my kids are 21, 20, and 16, and we’re all still feeling it.
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Shared on marriage-ecosystem.org by CTW.
Link to this story: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/turned-out-all-right.html
# 177, Turned Out All Right?
Here is the true sadness of divorce.
One father expresses discouragement in not seeing his children every day.
“I always experienced a tremendous feeling of sadness and hurt. I always had a feeling that no matter how hard you were trying and no matter how much time, there’s no way you can turn one or two visits a month into normal parenting. No matter how you cut it, you come up short and you feel it. You always come up a day late and a dollar short. It’s a tremendous sense of hurt. You want a full experience as a father, you want them to feel full love and you want them to feel it continually.”
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As shared in Fatherwork.
Link to FB Page: http://fatherwork.byu.edu/nonCustodial.htm
#176, Sadness of Divorce
This artist captures the horrible reality of divorce for some children!
Artists’ commentary: She was -like another victim of a divorce- abandoned by their parents, and lived in fear and misery. She had no place to go, and finally kill herself.. The dark power of vengeance raise her from death, and filled her with fury in her empty eyes.
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Deviant Art, Abomination-Abandoned Child, by beanystergates.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548
#175, Abomination,Abandoned Child
Artist describes her creation!
Statements in bold by Shared Parenting Confessional.
The gray woman on the far right. She can represent the girlfriend/parent/best friend/whatever-you-want-to-call-it on one of the parents side. This person is firm in what she believes in, she’s set in stone in what she believes, thus the reason why she’s gray.
However, her ear is only half the size it should be, and she’s missing the pupil in her eye to show that she only gets half of the story.
The parents. Each parent is wearing ear plugs and blindfolds, showing that they are oblivious to anything else except for what they believe is their right and what is for their benefit.
The fact that they both eventually turn into trees show that they are firmly rooted that what they say about the divorce is right.
The colors represent two things: anger and having a hard heart. So often, the parents are angry at each other, pointing fingers at one another, while showing no compassion for someone they once loved.
The vines on them represent communication, and the leaves represent each lie, each nasty comment said about each other. The fact that each adult has a leaf of the other spouse shows that they were married.
The mom is placed a little higher than the father, representing custody, and how a parent can have the upper hand on persuading a child against her other parent.
Now, for the little girl. She is wearing white to show that she is still an innocent child, that she has done nothing wrong.
Her eyes are covered, while her mouth is open wide in scream, symbolizing that the child shouldn’t just be another item for the parents; that she needs to be heard, not seen.
The bandage on her head represents the emotional/mental trauma a child suffers when the parents divorce.
The girl is wearing ballet slippers, but they are bound with bandages. So often, a childs’ hopes and dreams are affected because of the divorce.
Lastly, the vines and leaves that wrap around her show that she is surrounded by her parents lies and harsh words towards the other parent.
I hate it when divorced people put their child in the middle of the situation. It can truly cause emotional and mental damage to the child. Nor is it fair to the child simply because they are not the reason why the parents are now divorced. But because of our stubborn trait, we sometimes unknowingly put the child smack dab in the middle of the battlefield.
Please, protect the children that are going through divorce, that they might not suffer an abuse that is too often over-looked.
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Deviant Art deviant art divorce_by_strong_forever, by Strong Forever.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548
#174, Symbolism of Divorce
A deeper meaning of divorce:
“Now imagine a divorced couple, and then their little girl child. That child is always performing a dance on the rope, travelling from the cliff that is mother to the cliff that is father, the divorce the abyss it has to defeat.”
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Deviant Art, The Abyss, by Oshiruko.
Link to pic and read artists’ full commentary: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Abyss-306167251
#172, The Abyss
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