Author Archives: Shared Parenting Confessional

Grow -up!

July 12, 2015 By in All Confessions

 

This mother gives effective advice to other mothers.  

The best statement is “Do what is right for your kids.”

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!

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Anonymous

My advice to the mothers that are keeping their children from their fathers:  Grow up!

Just because you can does not mean that you should.  In time, your children will resent you for keeping them from their father.  They  will figure out what this is doing to them.   I did not keep my kids from their father, even when he did not pay child support.  Fathers have a right to see their kids, no matter what you think of them. Be the grown up and do the right thing.  Do what is right for your kids.  To those of you who the father wants to see their kid DO NOT PUSH HIM AWAY.  Your child needs their dad.

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#223, Advice

Divorce Hurts Everyone

July 8, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child, Impact on Child

 

This artist shares her thoughts on divorce.

“I hate divorce. I hate it with a passion. My parents divorced when I was only 3 and a half, so I can hardly remember anything about it, but it’s most definitely affected me in the long run. Everyone has their reasons and their stories for getting a divorce, and sometimes the reasons seem logical. But honestly, what good is divorce if it makes everyone unhappy? There is nothing GOOD about divorce, guys. There’s a good reason God hates it so much. And yet, just like every other sin, it’s everywhere. Don’t date unless you plan to marry that person and NOT DIVORCE THEM. EVER.”

Love is stupid d divorce_hurts_everyone_by_lemonsandlemonade7-d90efc2

 

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Deviant Art, Divorce Hurts Everyone by lemonsandlemonade7.

Link: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-Hurts-Everyone-544868642

#222, Divorce Hurts Everyone

A Father’s Heartache

July 8, 2015 By in All Confessions, Parental Experiences

 

One father shares the heartache of not seeing his son in 5 years!  The tragedy of PAS is that the years are gone.  The time for father-son talks, to share events at school, and sport activities are done.  There is no way to capture the time back.  NO ONE wins with PAS!  A short term “win” will eventually be discovered.  The truth will come out; however, until that point, the years are gone. 

 

Richie

The length of time, the separation, not hearing his voice, not knowing where he lives, does he think of me at all, if so than what does he think of me…… the list goes on……..

5 years is a long time and counting.

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The Fathers Rights Movement/2-16-15

#221, A Father’s Heartache 

All is Well

July 6, 2015 By in All Confessions, Family Court

 

A touching pic.  The words capture the mind of the parent who has struggled with issues of PAS.  Most parents want to the ability to parent their child.  As this pic shows, “All is well when all ends well!”

So dad tell me m

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No Winners in Divorce

July 5, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

Here is the reality of divorce!  An adult child shares the real tragedy of divorce and explains how there are no winners in divorce.

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For as long as I can remember my goal in life was to find a good husband and have kids and a happy family. I used to tell people as long as I had a happy family, I’d live anywhere even in a tent. It’s never been about money, or career, or pretty, materialistic things. And most children of divorce that I know feel exactly the same. We were broken by the loss of a true family, and no money can ever fill that void. For the child, divorce is an endless competition to please both parents.  But the truth, is that no one ever really wins in divorce.

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#218, No Winners in Divorce

Burden of Divorce

July 5, 2015 By in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

 

An adult child of divorce shares how divorce disrupted her life.  Sadly, this  the reality of divorce for some children.  

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I confess that my parents’ divorce was a HUGE burden on me.  Their  trying to be happy met DIVORCE, aka,  I would be unhappy!   The breaking up of my family has been my life.

Since that day of DIVORCE, I have been like a young adult trying to take care of my parents WHO WERE SUPPOSE TO BE TAKING CARE OF ME!

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#217, Burden of Divorce

Shared Parenting!

July 5, 2015 By in All Confessions, This is Shared Parenting

 

An inspirational story about two parents working together for the benefit of their child!  This dad talks about why shared parenting is essential.  Treasuring the small moments makes each and every-single-second together more special.  This dad eloquently summarizes his experience with shared parenting.  

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Being a separated parent has allowed me to realize a lot of things. I don’t get my daughter everyday and I don’t get to do all the things normal dad’s get to do. Some might feel like I try to go over the top in some of the things I do or blow a bunch of hot air about being a dad.

But in reality, it’s just me learning one simple skill that many can’t master. Never take things for granted. I’ve learned every moment with my daughter is extra special. My time is limited. So, what might seem like one of those normal simple moments in life are extra super special moments in mine. Tonight while watching the fireworks, I felt an overwhelming sense of peace. The world for me stopped spinning, doubts about my impending court battle disappeared, money wasn’t a concern, and everything I love dear was beside me and in my arms. 

I suppose my point is that I hate being a separated parent. I want my beautiful little girl 100% of the time. But, being apart even if it was only 50% of the time has blessed me with the knowledge and ability to take every moment we are together more serious. And without sounding condescending…not a single second is taken for granted and every kiss or I Love You means 1000x more than what it would mean to a normal parent.

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#216, Shared Parenting!

Torn and Confused

July 5, 2015 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child, Impact on Child

 

Divorce from the child’s perspective.  His parents are no longer together, a difficult concept for a young child.  Artist comments that the yellow circle is the engagement ring that is thrown far, far away.

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Deviant art torn confused child divorce_by_johny_kun-d35c5ls

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Deviant Art: Divorce by Johny-Kun.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-190363744

#215, Torn and Confused

Scrapbooking Parents’ Divorce

July 5, 2015 By in Adult Children of Divorce, All Confessions

 

Artist shares “I have started compiling a record of major life events, similar to a scrapbook yet deeper and focused on the darker sides of life as well. The first major life-changing crisis to happen in my life was the divorce of my parents when I was 10 years old.”

Deviant art scrapbook divorce_by_sunnenmoon

 

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Deviant Art: Divorce by Sunnenmoon

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-168409430

#214, Scrapbooking Parents’ Divorce