Perhaps the better question is: WHY do I have to choose? How distressing for a child to have to choose which parent to side with.
DIVORCE IS BETWEEN THE PARENTS_
ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!!
LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!
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#245, Who Do I Choose?
One parent uses his parents divorce as a motivator to be a strong husband and father. Everyone has their motivators! He was able to put his life together following the devastation of parental divorce.
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My parents got divorced as I was entering high school. I generally say it hit my younger brother the hardest. I think that’s just because his reaction was more outward. My dad is on wife #3. Hopefully, she’s the final one.
My mom didn’t remarry. She viewed it as her keeping her vow, since my dad wasn’t dead. Thankfully, she found comfort in Jesus and didn’t bring another man into the home.
I became a statistic on many levels…heavy drug use and recklessness. Finally, after a trip to rock bottom, I found myself back in school and working overtime to prove that I wasn’t a failure. I’m married now with a family of my own, and I work and stress myself out trying not being the father and husband my dad was. Sometimes, the stress can get overwhelming, but if I can just do these 2 things right, I will look back on my life and smile.
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Marriage-ecosystem:
Link: http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/trying-to-outrun-the-curse.html
#244, My Parents’ Divorce
One picture is worth a thousand words!
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Devant Art. Just Another Broken Home by the silver-fox
Link to artwork:http://www.deviantart.com/art/Just-another-broken-home-92328186
#243, Just Another Broken Home
A very sad depiction of divorce! There is a faint outline of a figure in the darkness. Excellent representation of divorce from the child’s perspective!!!!!!
The artist comments: “When parents divorced and one parent goes away, the child suffers most because it can not understand why this is happening. It usually loses his unburdened childhood … and must take farewell of them. (the bunny represent the childhood that threatens to go out of the darkness of the parents!)
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Deviant Art. Dad Where Are You? by LuceDraw
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Dad-where-are-you-399591508
#242, Dad Where Are You?
An example of the trauma that parental conflict can create for some children of divorce. This individual now views a major holiday differently because of the fighting and does not want to share a family Thanksgiving dinner again. I wish these parents would see how their behaviors are impacting their child. Will they come to the realization of how their child feels and recreate the dinner with a positive attitude and make the holiday a day to remember?
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I know the filling about parents fighting. My parent are not divorced but they were really close to it. I had to watch my mom and dad fight and it’s a sad sight to say that I didn’t even talk to them for a while till it cooled down. Whats worst is on a Thanksgiving when our whole family was coming. Thanksgiving was ruined! I will never go to my family Thanksgiving dinner again. I will keep trying to avoid that day.
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#241, Thanksgiving Day Forever Ruined
An adult child of divorce shares thoughts on divorce:
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I know what fighting is like..I seen it..I mean some people just think of themselves and not the sake of the kid…it’s sad when this stuff happens and it makes me sad to see this happens far too often..I wish people would know what they are doing before they get married.
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#240, Sad
An artist shares the devastation of divorce:
“When parents divorce, children are lost!”
Well said!
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Deviant Art. Divorce by mcloverfever.
Link to artwork:http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-70380547
#239, Lost!
An artist shares their thoughts on divorce:
“I really hate it when people get married and have a child or two then get divorced. I wish parents could just put up with each other for the sake of their kid. I even hate children and I feel bad for the kid.”
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Deviant Art. The Fight by ReflectionsofRhythm.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Fight-184119132
#238, The Fight
Artist shares their experience with divorce: “Divorce somehow pulls the rug out from under me – like in my drawing (the heart becomes black and breaks and the black from the heart, flows into the child), and from both sides dark thoughts about love and the other sex reached me – like in my drawing (the black from the parents hands which hold the child´s hands flows into the child), before I was full of dreams – dreams like fairytales – (in the drawing the colours in the child). And that the child is broken is a symbol for the break-up of the child´s world, but also a little critic to all divorced parents: Divorce destroys always a bit of a child and often the parents fight to have the child, but without regard to the child itself!”
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Deviant Art. Love Like in a Fairtale??, by suninthedark.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Love-like-in-a-fairytale-390890857
#237, Love Like in a Fairytale??
The impact of divorce for the child is HUGE! Here is a message from one parent to anyone thinking about divorce!
Note: Anyone thinking about divorce-please read the entries on this site (and other websites). Messages from moms, dads, children and outsiders…..this reveals the true impact of divorce.
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To anyone thinking about divorce,
PLEASE PLEASE read up on divorce and your child! Find out how your child will change when you divorce!
Divorce changes EVERYTHING! Divorce will CHANGE your child!!!!! Your child will NEVER be the same. AND NOT IN A GOOD WAY! There will always be a hole in their heart! They will always wonder about who else may leave them or betray them. If you are in an unhappy marriage STAY if you can. You may have a few years of unhappiness. But if you can spare your child the trauma of divorce, STAY MARRIED. Of course, if there is abuse this may not work. BUT, think about your child first! There are many books and websites on how divorce changes your child’s life. Read these BEFORE choosing divorce.
I wishy my parents did!!!
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#236, Before You Divorce…
coparentingconfessional.com 
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