An emotional plea for her parents to be together. A common theme with children of divorce. The artist comments: “My parents divorced when i was kinda young (i think i was going into my last years of elementary school) and at the time i was crushed bc i really looked up to my dad and he was the one that moved out.”
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Deviant Art, How Could You by Fimbulvetrstar
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/TSC-how-could-you-550487754
# 268, I Just …
One adult child of divorce shares the reality and heartbreak of divorce and remarriage. How true! A child has DNA from both parents. When one parent criticizes the other parent they are also criticizing the child. The same is true for family relationships.
Interesting take on what parents should do when they decide to divorce.
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When parents don’t love each other, they don’t love each others family. When they don’t love each other’s family, they don’t love the family of their child. The child feels alone and can’t show too much love or devotion to either side.
When the parents remarry and have children, they love that new spouse, and that new spouses family. The first child has to watch while the parent loves and gives preference to that new child’s whole family.
This state can continue for the first child’s entire life. watching the parents ignore 1/2 of the first child’s family, and giving preference and love to the latter child’s entire family.
I have lived this as the first child. the anger at the callousness and unfairness never really subsides. And then they wonder why you’re angry and why you never really seem to “get over it.”
When the parents don’t love each other, they should just give the child up for adoption rather than making the child live like that.
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Shared on Marriage-ecosystem.org
Link to site:
http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/when-parents-dont-love-each-other.html
#267, When Parents Don’t Love Each Other
“There are few parenting moments more difficult than having to answer your kids’ questions about the divorce.
No matter how much you prepared yourself for their inevitable confusion, those moments still manage to catch you off guard. How are you supposed to help them wrap their heads around life after divorce when you’re still struggling to get a handle on it yourself?”
Here are the questions kids asked:
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1. “I just want you and daddy to be in the same house. Can’t you just be roommates? For me?”
2. “When I told my 6-year-old son about the split, he said, ‘Does this mean we’ll be daddy-less kids?’ Now that hurt.”
3. “My 10-year-old son Michael asked, ‘Will this home always be here for us?'”
4. “Will your new wife be our aunt, or what? ‘Cause we already have a mom.”
5. “At age five, my child asked, ‘When does your heart tell your brain — or your brain tell your heart — you’re not in love anymore?'”
6. “‘Why did daddy break his promise to us?‘ He had promised to find a place to live close to us… then he moved to another city.”
7. “What will happen when I get married and you two can’t even be in the same room together at my wedding?”
8. “Why can’t daddy’s girlfriend just live here, too?”
9. “‘How come you don’t spend the night anymore?’ and later, ‘How come you and mommy didn’t get along?'”
10. “Why didn’t you leave dad a long time ago?”
11. “‘Why doesn’t daddy love us anymore?’ They haven’t seen him in one and a half years.”
12. “Why don’t you and daddy just stay together and work it out? You are supposed to be a team and a team works together, right?”
13. “Is it my fault?”
Huffington Post Article. 13 Utterly Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce
Link to article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/17/kids-and-divorce_n_5503935.html?utm_hp_ref=children-of-divorce
#265, Heartbreaking Questions Kids Ask About Divorce
A descriptive piece of art sharing the key emotional issues of divorce; Family, Future, Self and Life . Seeing the heart behind bars is quite revealing. The lower left quadrant seems representative of the overall theme. The dark background, LIES, a bottle (alcoholism perhaps?), the appearance of facial structures out of sun rays. The ‘smile’ on the face appears forced-for obvious reasons when looking at the full pic.
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Artwork by Jennifer Michelle.
#264, Family and Future
One pic is worth a thousand words!
50-50 custody is in the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD! Fight for the presumption of 50-50 custody!
#263, Custody
One father shares the joy and heartache of spending time with his son. Sadly, he has limited custody. He cherishes each moment he can parent his child! Family time is overshadowed by the limited hours he is allotted each month. This speaks to the importance of Shared Custody. How can a parent establish an emotional bond, teach what a child needs to learn, and instill a sense of responsibility in their child and LOVE their child in a few hours each month. The presumption of 50/50 custody is in the best interest of the child!
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This is how it works.
When you finally do the get chance to spend time with your child, you are so worked up and well-rested from the sometimes two weeks without contact (I’m lucky I only have to go 8 days), that you cannot sleep when they are with you.
You feel ready to go to sleep, you feel tired, but when you actually lie down to go to bed you can’t help but get up and walk by their room, or perhaps, even go in and sit with them while they sleep. You don’t want to miss a moment of time because it is so precious.
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#262, How Divorce Works
A sad depiction of divorce. The artist describes the pic: “We look pretty happy We look pretty normal, let’s go back to that In our family portrait we look pretty happy Let’s play pretend, act like it goes naturally. Divorce is something no kid wants to go through.”
Note the vast differences in the facial expressions in the ‘divorce’ pics on the top row. The dolls face reveals cuts and stitches indicating the emotional hurt and pain this child suffered in the divorce.
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Deviant Art, In our family portrait, by dragonsandwitches77.
Lonk to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/In-our-family-portrait-522995275
#261, In Our Family Portrait
This graphic piece of art is the work of an adult child of divorce! The flames consume the page. The eyes at the forefront are so sad. The presentation of the child seems to have a demonic quality. If you look closely you can see another set of eyes in the flame. Divorce damages the perception of family for some people. VERY ALARMING!!!! (No pun intended.) This is a horribly graphic depiction of divorce!
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Deviant Art, Children of Divorce.
Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/CHILDREN-OF-DIVORCE-40104348
#260, What Divorce Does!
Parents rearranging schedules to keep one parent from seeing their child is hurtful to the child and to the parent being excluded. Here is one experience outlining the hurt and devastation. One would wonder if this mom considered the emotional pain this could (and did) cause their son.
If one parent is trying to ‘win’…then the child is losing out at some level.
Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!
LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!
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Anonymous
Today was my boyfriends day to have his kids from 3(after school) until 6 PM, court order I mind you. The mother of the children took it in her own power to demand that today she is picking up the kids saying my boyfriend gave her the right to, which is untrue. We went and spoke with the summer teachers and daycare and they were saying how his son was asking continuously throughout the day if his daddy was picking him up and if it was 3 yet…the kids are always looking forward to his days picking them up. She did as she said she was and got them against court order and we went to the police and showed up at her house. We saw her drive by and the cops called her and they were so awesome and polite and just asked for her to come back so we can a figure this thing out. She refused and from what I heard was completely disrespectful to the cops. We had his court orders in hand at the time which didn’t really do much…I get that the cops can only do so much and I appreciate any efforts that they make…but what gets me is, the ex took time away from my boyfriend from his kids, she took time away from her own kids that look forward to time with their father…neither of them will ever have that time again, it was taken…even the courts can’t replace the 3 hours that my boyfriend should have gotten with his kids today. The courts are so unfair, even bringing this to court, really, what is it going to do so my boyfriend can have his kids in his life and not just be a bystander?!?!? So frustrated, angry and broken…today was a really hard day…
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The Fathers’ Rights Movement, July 29, 2015.
Link to FB page for The Fathers’ Rights Movement: https://www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids?ref=ts&fref=ts
#259, A Really Hard Day
A very descriptive piece of artwork. House is split down the middle with a jaw like sharp edge. Perhaps indicating the roughness of this emotional experience. Notably, the ‘pappa’ does not have a door :(. Both parents appear very sad.
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#258, Unhappy Homes
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