A graphic depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective. Both creatures show tears streaming down their faces.   The black background presents an added layer of drama. Note how each line of words is a different color further adding to the element of change that is occurring.

The artist shares this poem:

“The little girl wept,
The older one was silent,
Together they crept,
Away from their parents.

They thought it would stop,
That they’d finally be happy,
But it only got worse,
Everything was sappy.

The parents built a wall,
In the middle were the two,
They tried to climb but fell,
Into the lonely truth.

The older one was strong,
The younger one not so,
They didn’t know what was wrong,
They just silently watched the show.

One day it stopped,
And they were relieved,
But it soon ended,
And all were in grief.

They had a broken family,
Yet they forced themselves to be happy,
They were doing it for each other and for the other brother,
They were sad yet were a merry family.

The youngest of the three,
He didn’t understand,
He’d often ask much questions,
And now their all answered by me.”

#412, A Broken Family

Deviant Art, A Broken Family by LazuliteLily

Impact on child/Impact

.

This artist describes the details of parental divorce for the character in this creative artwork.  A few details of the background story for this character: “When Rikuto was 10, his father divorced and left and he didn’t know why.  Without his dad around,  he felt helpless. He would cry himself to sleep in his room at night, asking himself why would his father leave if he loved both him and his mother so dearly? The week after, his dad filed a divorce and picked up passports, packed his bags and left to move to the U.S. with his band. Without even saying goodbye while Rikuto slept peacefully in his room.”

Sadly, emotions experienced during the divorce linger as indicated with this scenario.  Understandably, there are feelings of  abandonment for the parent who offered protection.  Divorce is difficult for everyone.

#410, Daddy, Please Come Back

Deviant Art: Daddy, please come back by ArtsystarwolveZ84

Posted in Impact on child/Impact of divorce

Many children of divorce experience feelings of sadness and a profound sense of loss in reaction to their parents’ separation. This adolescent seems lost and forlorn.  Perhaps the person who took this picture can relate.  Artist describes this as “My parents are divorced which is why I took this.”

#403, Irony

Irony by JCHWang, Deviant Art

http://www.deviantart.com/art/irony-69219666

A child has the DNA of both parents.When one parent criticizes their co-parent, the child is  likely to interpret this as a put-down about them. When both parents are guilty of this behavior, it can create a great confusion along with a sense of unworthiness and low self-esteem. “Something’s wrong with me” becomes the child’s unconscious belief.

#402, Self-Image

by yuumei http://www.deviantart.com/art/Porcelain-Lies-582802844

Reality of Divorce

For some, divorce means the loss of a family. “Family” creates a sense of stability. Sometimes, divorce takes that away.  If one parent is in and out of their life this can create a sense of insecurity.  A sense of distrust forms that stays with the child.  What some want is to have family, parents who love them no matter what. A home with emotional support, no matter what.

#401, A Family, No Matter What

Impact on child

A sad family. No one seems happy.  Even Mr. Sunshine has a sad face.  Each parent is trying to touch their child. Both parents look angry. Even the rays of sun seem to be reaching down as if to help. Rays are blocking dads hands and darting in front of mom. A sad and angry depiction of a family in divorce. 

#362, Unhappy Sunshine Family

One child of divorce shares the heartache of divorce. Not surprisingly, children suffer when their parents argue. Having both parents at school events and their birthday party is important. Memorable moments should not be destroyed by parental conflict. 

Divorce is between the parents-About the Child!

Love Wins!!!     Love Wins!!!     Love Wins!!!

“I would really appreciate it if the two of you could stop acting like children and come up with a plan that allows you to be in the same space at the same time without being mean to each other. For example: my birthday, sports events, recitals, concerts, and basically any time my other family, friends, coaches or teachers are around. If you could manage to put your own selfish crap aside and be civil with each other every once in a while, that would be great for everyone.”

#361, What the Child Wants

Children need to know their parents’ love is unconditional and impenetrable, even and especially in the face of something as potentially devastating as divorce.  One parent should not be airbrushed out of the child’s life for ease and convenience or worse yet, revenge.Children need BOTH parents!

Pic from Fathers Justice

#360, Something is Missing

Angry parents and a very sad child!  This pic was found with an article titled: “Ten Things Divorcing Parents Should Avoid”.  The article shares the tremendous toll of divorce on the child’s emotional and physical well-being.  The 3-D image with the flowing tears seems to emphasize the drama of divorce!  Sad faces on both parents seems to indicate that no one is happy with divorce.  Well said!!!!

Article, Ten Things Divorcing Parents Should Avoid by M. Gary Neuman & Esther Neuman on Fox News Magazine, 2-12-16.

#359, Sad Family